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New relationship, I'm really keen...how to proceed with caution?

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pinkduckk · 27/07/2025 23:08

I am divorced, in a relatively new relationship with a divorced man. Both have older kids, own homes. I have zero interest in combining households etc, he's equally wary having been almost burnt before. My first relationship post separation so I'm aware this is new ground. We are enjoying taking it slowly and having nice meals out etc. All good.
However...I just really like him! Finding it hard to balance common sense and the feelings I am having. I feel like I want to see him all the time (when in reality I know i actually wouldn't want that!). But I miss him when we're not together and feel like a teenager checking my phone.
Any advice on how to balance sensible behaviour with silly feelings?!

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Mammyloveswine · 27/07/2025 23:11

Are you me? Haha I’m the same! But he’s lovely and it’s mad the teenage feelings! He’s away on holiday and I’m away on holiday next week said two weeks apart!

pinkduckk · 27/07/2025 23:15

Oh I'd struggle with that @Mammyloveswine! Ridiculous isn't it! Nice I suppose...

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Mammyloveswine · 27/07/2025 23:19

It is nice but also why do I feel like a teenager? 🙈

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 27/07/2025 23:21

Where did you meet these men please?!

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 27/07/2025 23:22

Just don't rush. Enjoy the feelings. Know that you might not feel as strongly in a year.

pinkduckk · 27/07/2025 23:34

Oh I'm sure feeling like this won't last, so i am enjoying it. In fact the whole thing quite probably won't last! But I'm finding it hard not to want to see him allllll the time. It was so long ago that I dated my now exH that i can't remember if I felt like this!

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/07/2025 00:19

Enjoy the same! Just done put yourself in a silly position financially legally socially etc and nothing to lose

pinkduckk · 28/07/2025 11:20

Yes I'm absolutely set on financial independence etc.
I just feel like I'm failing to enjoy it by pining after him all the time!

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