Are you the wife/partner of a Deadbeat?

[snughugs]

I’m curious what’s been discussed? What if you have children do you tell them about their sibling? We hear so much about Dead beat Dad’s but none of them own up to being one. So I presume there’s some shame to it. We also know women get into relationships with these men and realistically it’s not always practical to stick your head in the sand and say it’s nothing to do with you. For example if the deadbeat child father dies they child could still make a claim on the estate in Scotland which could be tricky if you’re being secretive. Death certificates are public records and the child could put in a claim for up to ten years after. There’s other incidents where it could be problematic so I’m curious of the mindset.

I can’t make head nor tail of this op

I’m referring to wife or partner whose husband have children they’ve completely abandoned. E.g a Deadbeat.

But but then you throw in about telling siblings and Scottish law re inheritance, which is somewhat wider than just “deadbeat dads”

it’s a deadbeat dad who goes on to have children with whom he remains in contact with, but not his first partner and child.

is that what you’re asking about!

Yes. All circumstances I’m curious about including that scenario. As presumably before having subsequent child the Father may mention he has a child before (he may not too).

I am going to guess

you have a child
with a deadbeat man
who has nothing to do with your child
who has gone on to have further children
you live in Scotland

correct?

Correct only ex resides in Scotland. I live in England. I’m just curious my son has no interest in meeting his Father. As for claiming the estate I know a solicitor he was the result of an affair never knew his Father when he died he claimed on the movable estate. He said he done it for what his Mother went through. I could understand it’s his legal right after all, you don’t have to fight it in court just claim it.

If you do have a husband that hasn’t met his child is that not challenging when you have to have grown up conversations and perhaps tell your other children of the child’s existence? In the solicitor friend’s case I’m sure it must’ve brought some difficulties and surprise to the other family members. He did some other things too like became the chairman of the village association the guy originated from and so on. He was your political type of guy so suited that role he also didn’t bother to hide his parentage, which must’ve been very embarrassing for the Father.