Background, I have severe anxiety and can have episodes of agoraphobia. I always encourage my husband to see his family but I don't always make it. I view alone time as important so we have plenty of that and can always do our own thing. He is quite a homebody so rather than visit family regularly he will read/listen to music/game on his xbox. He sees his mum once every 2 weeks for a hobby and on special occasions pretty much always.
Recently his dad has been a bit off with me, making little comments about my being antisocial etc. I've joked them off as not to cause a fuss. He's been a bit cold too, things like not wishing me a happy birthday until the next day (everyone else it's on the morning of their bday on the group chat) There was one occasion where he got angry at my husband for wanting to leave a family event he had been at all day at around 7pm, saying he needs to make more effort for his family. For more context, Mt husband has a sister with 2 children who lives a couple of hours away. We all get on fine but my husband doesn't make anything other than the required amount of effort with the kids when they are visiting his parents. He also has a brother who lives locally and again, my husband doesn't see much of him as he's quite a homebody. They do get together for the odd pint/football match etc but he does turn down a lot of social invites too.
My husband was on sick leave due to stress at work and his wage significantly impacted. We share finances 50/50 but after a few months we were struggling with just my wage and ssp. He asked his mum for a loan.
Yesterday we were at PIL house for the day to catsit. They are not hoarders, all clean and organised. On the dining table next to the instructions for cat was a clipping from a salvation army magazine about abusive relationships. How to spot the signs, partner keeping you from friends and family, keeping you isolated, spending your money, being controlling about who you see etc.
I think my FIL has left it there for my husband as he honestly thinks this may be the case. I'm really upset. I've always tried to maintain a nice relationship with them albeit I know I can be distant. Unfortunately I think PIL doesn't or doesn't want to see that husband is not very sociable, a bit lazy sometimes and doesn't want to meet up with family every week.
I cannot think of a single other reason why that clipping would be left on the table.
I'm upset and bewildered as to how to handle this situation. Any advice welcome.