My husband has been cheating for years but refuses to admit it. He's half American and has to do regular trips to Seattle so has plenty of opportunities. When I present evidence (a couple of girlfriends contacted me on Instagram to ask why I was having an affair with their partner), he denied it all, says she is a stalker/platonic friend/whatever.
I applied to divorce him last year and it is dragging like mad because he is refusing to respond to my solicitor. I keep having to pay for process servers and it goes to court next month.
He refuses to discuss it, the divorce or anything really. Just pretends it hasn't happened. I contribute more than twice what he does into the joint account because he says he is in debt. One of the girlfriends says he had paid for an educational course and I found financial statements relating to potential purchase of a flat in another Canadian city. I'm not sure if he had bought it,.
On Tuesday my adult son was contacted by a girlfriend of his father. She sent photos of them clearly as a couple, a video of them reuniting at the airport etc.
I don't know why she did this and really don't care.
He's back tomorrow and is at home for a week before spending 2 months in the Toronto office. I haven't said anything yet.
My plan is to wait until he is in Toronto and then forward him the pictures and ask him to engage with my solicitor. I can't stop him coming home as both our names are in the mortgage. I'm hoping this will shove him to complete the divorce. I dont hold out much hope which is why I'm posting for advice here.
I cannot risk talking to him. He's not a reasonable man and people don't seem to understand that which is so frustrating. He has form for emotional abuse and I think this is financial abuse as well. The mental health team (depression) did a safeguarding referral for me as a vulnerable adult. He had been physically violent towards inanimate objects (punched wall next to my face and broke his hand. He told me that was my fault).
I don't know what he has told his parents but his mother is now very cold towards me. We only see them once a year but we were both very fond of each other and it hurts.
All I want is to put the house on the market and get divorced.
Please, has anyone got any good ideas as to how I handle this?