Venting about the biggest asshole ever

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I suppose I just want to vent because today was the last day I will ever talk to him. Feeling like a pressure cooker.

He is my ex, split because he told me I was too fat to be with him/have sex etc. Also said, I wasn't sexy and would never be. At the time I was on some pretty heavy medication and have hypothyroidism.

For some insane reason, I decided to stay friends with him. We would occasionally meet for a drink in the pub or go shopping, just mundane things really.

Since Christmas I have lost 3 stone and all of a sudden he starts talking about us having sex!! FFS. I told him I am not his partner any more after he made it clear I was too fat for him. He said, but you lost weight now 😂😂 (this is the first time he mentioned my weight loss).

On this day we visited an old haunt for a meal, where he told the waitress very loudly that she looked great because she had lost weight and congratulated her. I started to feel pissed off that he could say this to a stranger but not me, even as a friend.

Yesterday I was having a massive meltdown as my house swap fell through. I told him I don't think I can take any more of this life. He replied saying, best of luck ending your life. Today he has sent me numerous texts about himself, how he's doing weight training now and will look fantastic etc etc. Not even asked if I am ok.

Well you asshole, you are well and truly blocked now. Why does these kind of people even exist?!! Thanks for reading my rant.

I read it OP, he is a massive arsehole. He's clearly threatened by your weight loss hence the insecure mentioning his own weight training. He's realised what he's missed out on. .under no circumstances must you have a shred more contact with him, he's obviously an absolute toxic person to have in your life.
Let him have seen you looking great and now block him. Let that be the last he sees of you.
Exes are exes for a reason, you can't be friends.

I’m friends with ex H. Because I e realised we’d just drifted apart and whilst we really do care for each other we don’t love each other like man and wife anymore. We look out for each other and it’s nice because we can go to family functions (dc are adults) and it’s light, no aggro, including new partners.

However - your ex sounds like he’s chancing his luck as he wants to sleep with you. He is a cruel man - and a total tosser. I don’t think he’s mature enough to be on civil terms, let alone be friendly.

You’ve dodged a bullet - oh, and when you do find someone else (if that’s what you want in the future) be prepared for a massive shitty attitude from him because he won’t want to see you happy in a loving relationship. He won’t change. He’s an arsehole!

You’ve done brilliantly to get healthier and I hope you realise that, I bet you’re shining like a happy beacon. He’s now just jealous.