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Inlaws

5 replies

Phoeb · 25/07/2025 16:48

How would you take this…? I live over the road from my in-laws, and the pub that my FIL practically lives in. This week, I had my friends round, my friends partner came to pick her up. The next thing I know, my Husband is calling me, and asking me if I’m ‘ok’ as his Father had just called him to say he’d seen me letting a man in the house!! I flipped, my Husband said his Dad was just ‘worried’.

If my FIL was genuinely worried, he would have come over himself, he was also in a pub with his friends, several of them, so he could easily have brought them over too, I will add we have children, his Grandchildren, who were in the house too. I think he was ‘hoping’ I was actually having an affair, and that my Husband would catch me out.

This also comes a week after our tenth wedding anniversary, when we didn’t get so much as a text from them, I wouldn’t really expect anything less though, in all of the photos of him at our wedding, he looked furious, and he left straight after speeches!

OP posts:
AbzMoz · 25/07/2025 21:01

Move. For the sake of your marriage and your sanity.

Zempy · 25/07/2025 21:03

Yes, what possessed you to live so close to him?

HappiestSleeping · 25/07/2025 21:05

Sorry, I wouldn't have been able to help myself and would have given some response along the lines of "can't talk now, too busy shagging friend's other half, but need to be quick as she is downstairs. With our children. And grandchildren. You fucking muppet", or some such.

Bad that FIL had a sticky beak, worse that your husband didn't have your back and send him off with a flea in his ear.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 26/07/2025 09:36

If you can move home do so.

What does your H think of his father’s behaviour?. Is he usually mouselike in his father’s presence?. Sounds like your h is mired in fear obligation and guilt when it come to him hence he being apparently unable to stand up for you.

Sparkletastic · 26/07/2025 09:43

Agree you need to move

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