What even is this literally going insane

[Ifeelbroken]

I’ve been with partner nearly 12 years. I think he’s a full blown narcissist. I literally can’t take it anymore.

He literally says stuff and does stuff which he knows will make me upset and then blames me.

for context.
Gets my hopes up tells me we’re going to do something and then changes his mind cos ‘he’s thought about it properly’ . I obviously react because I’m upset and angry cos I was excited and now I’m let down, again. I then distant myself cos that’s what I do when I feel like a situation bothers me. But then apperently I’m the one in the wrong he’s the victim. He’s now saying I’ve pushed him
away and how stubborn he’s going to be and not be surprised if he doesn’t talk to me for weeks.

this isn’t the first time he’s done this. Honestly I feel like I’m going fucking mad. Apperently the way be feels about me now he can easily walk away. But I literally haven’t done nothing 😭 I’ve sat there and doubted myself just incase I did by accident but even reading back through old messages, I’m not starting like he’s making out I’m literally being distant cos I’m upset.

Can someone help me before i go insane am I the problem 😭😭😭😭

Go on youtube and look for Dr Ramani, and you will get educated to a point you will never, ever give a man, or a human, with those traits again.

Get rid of this from your life, as what ever you say, or do will never ever change anything. He will always have a plan B lined up so start being OK with that.

The hurt of leaving a man like that is less painful than if you stay. Its harder to stay away from a man like that as they know what to say to you in order to keep you around and what comes with you.

Dr Ramani. YouTube.

It's not you. He gets off on being like this and you will feel like you are going mad.

My ex used to do this all the time. He enjoyed taking a confident, career woman and breaking me down into tiny little pieces. But when I finally snapped he drove off with a cheery wave and left me to recover.

End it please.