Just letting off steam.
Ibeen single for years after marriage broke up. Have had a few Online dates but they all work out the same..
Had this guy messaging me for 2 weeks whilst he was away visiting his Mum, He organised to come home early and met last night. I never put too much on what he had texted "you're beautiful" "sure we'll click" "never felt this way" sending loads of photos of himself and family etc. He's only been out of a 6 year relationship 6 weeks!
Turned up, looked nothing like photo of a smart man in a suit (over 2 yr old photo I now know ) Looked like he'd grabbed his outfit off the floor in silky shorts and shirt and vaped a horrible smell. Yellowing teeth, no hair and unkept beard. But he was a gentleman, even asked me to a BBQ at the weekend. Once we got home could tell he was not not feeling it. This morning got the usual, you're a nice girl etc. This happens alot.
In the past I've invested in the date, may have kissed and cuddled but as this approach hasn't worked and I ended up disappointed I tried to stand back a bit. didn't work and think he was a bit miffed I wouldn't go back for coffee.
My pride wishes I'd let him down first lol but part of me would have met up again to see if I felt different.
I just don't get why guys say these things, look nothing like their photos and then move on.
Expecting to say single for the rest of my life (I'm 51) I am financially ok, have a lovely family and well educated but this seems to be a threat rather than an attraction. What works?!