He couldn't have sex as he had to be up early tomorrow, yet tried sexting me once at home

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Basically my partner couldn't stay at my house this evening after our dinner date as he had to be up mega early to drive long distance to pick up his 3 year old son.
However he had the time to sext me?!

Ok so in a ltr , 7 months, all good, healthy relationship, great sex life, have alot of laughs together, love each other.

Went on a dinner date this evening, it went great as usual, we always get on very well and have lots of laughs together , chat and flirt .
During our dinner , we discuss the fact that he has a very busy day tomorrow. He is up early and is driving for 6 hours to pick his 3 year old son up to have him for a couple weeks as arranged between him and his ex partner.
So we agree no staying over either one of our houses this evening as we won't get a good night sleep ( we live in same town only 5 mins apart so no travel time ) and we will end up spending the night having sex .
I feel this is a good idea to sfay at our own homes , I would never want him to do a tired drive, especially with his son.

Anyway so it comes to the end of the evening, we are kissing in the car , it's getting very heated I say come on let's stop as it's just winding each other up and you need to go bed. We then both suggest a quickie but no sleepover so we both can get a good night's sleep.
Normally I know he would be so into this. However he says no I can't I'm going home, fair enough I agree as I kiss him goodbye and wish him a safe journey tomorrow.
Say our love yous and hug.

He gets home , txts me and thanks me for a lovely evening.

Since then which was at 9.45 he has been sending constant horny msgs ... trying to get me to engage in sexting, I will a little but I'm not fully going with it as I've never been into sexting
.. he knows this!

I'm just sat here thinking wtaf ? This guy has spent over an hour and 15 minutes msgsin me , he said he couldn't come in for a quickie ( which could have been over in 10 minutes! If we wanted it to) I won't get to spend any time intimately with him for a couple of weeks now.

I find his behaviour really odd and out of character

Opinions please

He wishes he'd come in?

Over thinkinking it. He was going to be sensible but went home and still horny. Thinking of you. Maybe he can't sleep

I'd be pissed off. Tell him you're going to sleep and wish him good night.

Sexting in the comfort of one's bed is different than having sex, which in all honesty would take more than 10 minutes. Now he can fall asleep whenever he wants to but that wouldn't have been possible if he was at yours. He obviously is into you and wanted to have sex but was being practical. And now he is thinking of you while in bed. It's not that odd.

"Oi! Matey! You had your chance. Goodnight!" 😂

Don't overthink it, he's probably just still horny and now regretting not going to bed with you!

If you're not into it just tell him that. Sounds like you have a lovely relationship with this man. Him sexting you is a good problem to have I reckon!

Haha yes exactly, just tell him this OP.

So I've said goodnight and that I am going to sleep & he msgs me saying sorry he couldn't come in, tomorrow will be difficult seeing his ex again and that has been his mind !

Nothing to do with the driving tired.
I haven't replied as I'm just going to sleep on it.
I have really trusted him up until this point but now I am feeling paranoid about him staying overnight in a travel lodge near her.
He normally stays at her place , however since we've got together he has said he will stay in travel lodge.
I wasn't over thinking any of this until tonight!!
Agh I'm probably overthinking but this has thrown such a curve ball 😒

You're going to have to trust him sweetheart. She's his ex for a reason.

Thank you for this

What?? So first he said that he couldn’t come in (for sex) because he needed to rest for the long drive ahead, and then it’s because his ex is on his mind? The inconsistency is a bit of a red flag and, as usual, women’s instructs are spot on. You felt the need to post on here about his behaviour tonight because it was unusual (even though for the rest of us it seemed pretty normal). And I guess you were right, there was more to the story than just needing to go to sleep early…

Sounds like he is deliberately trying to make you insecure about his ex