So a little back story. Me (F23) and partner (M23) have been together since April 2017, we were 15 and met at school. We have always done everything together, he took me on my first holiday abroad, he has given me so many experiences I never got to experience as a child. We had a son in November 2022 and we were going through a big roommate phase but we ended up stronger than ever and we got engaged in April 2025 on our 8 year anniversary. I was so so happy, had our engagement party booked and was really looking forward to it. But I had the urge to look through his iPad and I found out that he was talking / sending nudes to multiple different girls in 2020. I confronted him and he told me everything and said he was going through a hard time and he admits it was wrong not to tell me and he wouldn’t blame me if I left. I called off the engagement and broke up with him, he did move back to his mums for a week but I was struggling too much mentally so I told him to move back in.
He has been actively trying to communicate better and he answers any questions I have about the situation. He says he deeply regrets it and he is sorry. But I don’t know what to do.
im so embarrassed I gave him so much time and love, I know I’m young but I really thought this was it. We went through so much together and he is genuinely a good guy so this happening has confused me so much.
has anyone been through something like this? What did you do in the situation and is there any chance I could move on from this?
obviously I wouldn’t be engaged to him anymore but should I get back with him? It just feels so strange. I don’t really have anyone I can speak to about this and it’s eating at me.