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Older male 45M obsessive after first date with me 32F

38 replies

mummyofboys31xx · 22/07/2025 17:57

So I need to talk to someone, I am a 32 year old single mother of 8 and 6 year old sons. been separate since 2021, I met some guy in London in 2021 he is 45 years old, who asked for my number but I gave him my Facebook, he's been begging to date me messaging for years he is Brazilian but has a business in France, finally after years of begging, I let him take me out last weekend, he booked a flight straight over the day I said yes and he met me at the mall and bought gifts for me, jewlerry and other stuff, he wouldn't stop kissing or touching me, we spent the day together and I went home, the next morning he was leaving London so I went to his hotel to say bye and he wouldn't stop touching me, one thing led to another, we had two hours of "love making" it was so passionate and he just kissed me all over and showed me so much love, but its been a week and he has not stopped messaging constantly, he is coming back tomorrow to spend a few days with me!! here're some of the messages
You drive me crazy
You are the best woman i have ever seen in my whole life 💖
You drive me crazy
I want one baby
I want to have a child with you
You won’t be alone this time
I'm leaving at 9 or 10 at night to finish as quickly as possible. I need to see my love. I'm going to France on Wednesday. Before I go, I need to hug my future wife.
I want you in my life
You are perfect
You are more beautiful without makeup or lashes!
You're my life
My life
I want one baby
It can be my love, it will be easier, I want to be close to you always.
I wish I was there right now lying next to you
You will make me love you very easily.
We will be together for all moments.
I didn't want anyone, I wanted to be alone, focus on my work Now everything has changed❤️
It's been a long time since I've had anyone
I'm taking our relationship seriously. "I want you."
I will be faithful to you, I want to have a family. I want a wife, children, and family.
My friends from France want to meet you. They want to know which princess won my heart ♥️
I miss you so much!
I want your son's. I will take care of your son's
I don't care what you wear or walk, I know you are a wonderful woman and an extraordinary mother.
You are mine now
You are amazing
The only thing I ask of you is to respect me, I don't care what you wear, where or where you go, but wherever you are, always remember that there is a man who really likes you.
I want you in my life forever.
I will only leave you if one day you no longer want me.
You are my life
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You are mine!
You also can't imagine how long I was alone waiting for a wife. I never gave up on you, I always tried to stay as close to you as possible.
I love kissing you, smelling you, I want to wake up next to you, kissing you from head to toe.
You are amazing!
The best
We will be together, I will help you, we will do many things together, decorate your house.
You are the best❤️
I miss you!
Do you think I will lose you easily? No way
I miss you!
Understand how much I fought to win you over and look at the dates
I want only you
I will take care of you and your sons
I miss you!😘😘😘
You will be my wife!
I will take over and we will build a family
I will look after you
I really like you ♥️
Good morning, my honey
You will be mine forever!😉
You make me happy 😊
I want a daughter with you
I miss you so much, I really want to kiss you and hug you
You look beautiful without makeup
Much younger and more beautiful 😍
I know that, my princess, we live far away, but I will do my best to ensure we are always together.
I can help you with anything?
Good morning! The woman of my life
Everything I want I can get
Now you will pay for all this time I waited for you, I will make you love me
Now I need a new talent to win you over
I —— in to you very fast, I usually take a while to come
I'm starting to get so creeped out, a few red flags, he keeps saying he wants a baby. I have two and he has 3 older kids! Another thing, on our date he kept saying I can't believe how young you look, you don't even look 24 and how much he loved that. I feel these messages are a lot, what should I do? does this sound normal?

OP posts:
Pbjsand · 22/07/2025 20:07

I predict stalking and harassment if you end it later.

TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne · 22/07/2025 20:18

Elektra1 · 22/07/2025 19:21

How many threads does this need?

None!

pinkglitter12 · 22/07/2025 20:24

Honestly I think this is kind of normal for Brazilian people, and portuguese speaking people. It's very intense and romantic. I think its adorable.

MeTooOverHere · 23/07/2025 01:13

FloraBotticelli · 22/07/2025 18:00

A few red flags? All sirens blazing more like. Block him before he starts causing you real problems and focus on yourself and why you’re feeling in any doubt at all about what’s going on here. There must be some part of you that wants this or feels flattered by it or whatever - that part of you will cause you problems if you don’t address it.

A few red flags? All sirens blazing more like.
Yeah nah.
RUN

Littlejellyuk · 23/07/2025 20:44

pinkglitter12 · 22/07/2025 20:24

Honestly I think this is kind of normal for Brazilian people, and portuguese speaking people. It's very intense and romantic. I think its adorable.

Adorable? 🤔 how so?

anytipswelcome · 24/07/2025 08:23

pinkglitter12 · 22/07/2025 20:24

Honestly I think this is kind of normal for Brazilian people, and portuguese speaking people. It's very intense and romantic. I think its adorable.

You find it adorable?

Repeatedly saying after meeting once that he wants to het her pregnant, specifically with a girl, and telling her that he ejaculated more quickly than he usually does?

Yeah, so cute 😬

Girlmom35 · 24/07/2025 08:39

This is not a red flag, it's a freaking tornado warning!
Remove this man from your life as fast as you can!

Flatbellyfella · 24/07/2025 16:45

I think he likes you……RUN🏃🏿‍♀️‍➡️FAST🏃🏿‍➡️🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

PrincessPammy · 24/07/2025 16:52

Seriously?

You even have to ask if this is NORMAL?

Of course it's not.

Block him.

No contact at all.

ByMintLion · 24/07/2025 16:53

Not this again?!

PrincessPammy · 24/07/2025 16:56

ByMintLion · 24/07/2025 16:53

Not this again?!

I've reported it

ElizabethVonArnim · 24/07/2025 17:11

If at some point, he starts telling you that he/a member of his family is in danger/needs an operation, do NOT give him money or agree to pay for anything/take out a loan or credit card for him that he will pay you back for.

This sounds like the beginning of a romance fraud. Either that or a love-bombing narcissist/abuser. Neither is good.

Even if he is totally sincere and just ‘passionate’, it’s still weird and awkward.

mauvaiseherbe · 24/07/2025 17:25

reported - gotta love the hols

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