Feel trapped

[Dogbestfreind]

I think I might be trapped and don’t know how to get out of it. Been with partner 8year, no children together, don’t live together.

Im really unhappy and his behaviour is affecting my mental health, I have history of mh difficulties. He’s a alcoholic and is drinking at least 10 pints a day, he never leaves his gaming pc, we don’t live together so I go visit him, every time I do he wants taking to the shop, if I don’t take him he acts like a child, on the days I don’t go he makes me feel guilty for not going, saying I don’t spend time with him I don’t love him ect.

we’ve never been on holiday together, or do activities as a couple, I’ve brought up going for a walk ect but he won’t unless there a pub.

I tried to end the relationship 2 month ago but somehow I’m still seeing him taking him to the shops ect, I think I just needed to vent I just need to get out of this before I feel any worse

Venting is all very well but does you no favours because the underlying issues remain. What do you want to happen here?.

What happened to you?. How did the two of you meet in the first place?. He is also using your MH difficulties against you here.

Are you getting help for your MH problems?.

The last thing you need is an unhealthy codependent relationship like this.

Why are you still seeing him at all?. Why can you not stop and block him from contacting you?. You're not helping yourself here by supposedly helping him at all and he is no decent bf, let alone partner to you.

Do you think you can rescue and or save him from himself?. You cannot do that and you really do not want to spend another 8 days, let alone 8 years trying.

Yes op your trapped because you haven't stopped contact with him, why haven't you, and block him, yes that's it, you'll be free from him,

You go to visit him, why , don't go,
When you do go you take him shopping?? Oh op stop this , and block

Work out what to say to him when you end it - and say it! Don’t visit him ever again and don’t take him shopping.

say something like' X, I no longer want us to be together. This isn't working for me.' Keep it simple and don't get drawn into a discussion.

You're not trapped. You don't live together, have children together or appear to be a solid couple. Just end it. "This is no longer working for me" will suffice. Your partners alcoholism is his problem to solve, not yours, so stop enabling it. Get some help for your MH issues, cut all contact and raise your bar.

You say you’re trapped op but nothing in your post suggests you are. Who else do you have in your life? Have you told anyone your situation that can support you? If you don’t have friends and family go to citizens advice and see what networks you can tap into. There are support groups for families and loved ones of addicts, they can help you if you can’t do it alone. This sounds miserable you must dump him asap

Send a firm message, don’t invite a response like - unless you change/do you agree etc- then block him.