How to get over someone

[Forestmumlondon]

I've recently finished things with someone I was seeing for a couple of months. Things hadn't got particularly serious, but we did speak a lot and had slept together. This is the first person I've dated properly for a long time and I really fell for him! I thought I was happy single before, but it was so nice to have him to talk to / go on dates with / physical affection etc. Being a single parent it felt good for someone to be paying me attention and being protective etc.

It recently transpired that it's not a good idea to keep dating him, found out things that point to him potentially being abusive with his ex and there just loads going on there separation wise. So have finished it.

But I miss him :-( it's so annoying, is it just a matter of waiting it out or is there anything else you can do to stop thinking about someone and missing them!!

Sleep around.

Sorry if you've already said but how old are you OP?

No matter the age, it always hurts at first but time definitely helps.

I’ve been separated nearly 3 weeks. Separation wasn’t really my idea. I’ve done a lot wrong in our marriage and my husband has decided enough is enough. I never cheated. Just arguments. Initially we stayed friends now he has blocked me. We have slept together a few times, he contacted me. He says he loves me but I’m not for him anymore. I can’t get over him. Some days are worse than others. All I can think about is how to get him to come back home. I get the feeling he does want to be with me but then he holds back. I just don’t know what to do

If you keep up contact, it’s an act of self-hatred. Simple as that!

Nurse yourself as if you're getting over an illness - in a way, you are! Feelings don't conveniently turn themselves off because your brain tells them to, and it will be a while before you're back to your old self, so be kind to yourself. Have some treats, spent time doing things you enjoy, talk to friends, just nurture yourself gently for a while. Take it from an old gal who's been round the heartache lap a few times; don't look back - in the end it'll be worthwhile.

Best* way to get over someone is to get under someone else!

*Warning: May not be the best way. Not relationship advice. Your home is at risk if you do not keep up mortgage or other payments secured on it.

Pick up some labour or mind intensive task you've been meaning to do for ages that will take ages. Clearing out a cupboard? Deep clean the entire house? You get the idea! You won't have time to think about him and you'll be over it by the time it's finished.