I dont feel a spark anymore.

[Crystalmam]

Just some advice.

Me and hubby have been together near 10 years and married for near 2, the past few months, I just feel that there is nothing between us anymore and I am unsure how to change it, we never go on dates as we dont have child care, we work opposite shifts and only have one day off together, and we havnt touched eachother in the bedroom at all this year, I feel like we are both lost now and we are just mum and dad, I do love him but unsure wether we are in love anymore and it scares me, I dont know how to change things and make our relationship better.

If others have been through this I would greatly appreciate your advice.

Thank you xx

Is there any possibility of changing things up? Can you change shift patterns for example? Can you talk to him and see how he feels, ask if there's anything wrong? Can you pay for childcare? Can you discuss the lack of intimacy in the relationship and make more effort? This could include hugging, holding hands, massage, kissing, taking time to talk...

You should probably speak to your husband about this and get his take on things.

How old are your children? Is there a way you can do date night at home once they’re asleep? We do this sometimes when we can’t get childcare. Cook a nice meal and watch a movie together with some fancy snacks

Talk, how does he feel? Do you share the life admin or is there a resentment building

Is all about communication. You are in the difficult years they do end & you both need to be on board with it.

Date Nights are hard to jump to if you have been pulling away from each other.
Holding hands on a walk to the shops, noticing each other and complimenting each other.
Then the home date nights
Remember the passion from your early days it can be rebuilt.

We have worked hard to get to where we are now, & it is as good as it was in the early days. It wasn't easy & includes resentment, an affair, loneliness. I wish I could go back to the point where we stopped communication and rewrite history.