It’s easier to find a unicorn than a genuine, sincere man!

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I’m finding it really hard to meet someone genuine and sincere. I’m not asking for anything crazy. I just want someone kind, emotionally aware, who actually wants to connect properly and isn’t afraid of being open.
It’s like everyone talks a good game but when it comes down to showing up with consistency and honesty it just falls flat. I’m not into games, I’m not here for shallow chats. I just want something meaningful.
I’ve actually come off the dating apps for now as I had a few conversations that felt promising and just as I started to feel hopeful it all became apparent what they only wanted. It messes with your head after a while. I realised I was spending more time feeling disappointed than excited and that’s not the energy I want in my life.
It’s disheartening as I know there are good people out there but it feels like finding someone who’s emotionally available is becoming rare. I’m trying not to give up hope but it’s hard sometimes.

Try going to a music festival (the smaller independent ones, not the big commercial nosebleeds)! Casual chat is very easy in that environment and it's also very easy to move on or lose someone in a crowd.

Authenticity is rare.

The one who has it will show up.

Music festival sounds like a great environment. I love the idea if I’m not feeling it to just get lost in the crowd!

Music festivals are a good shout.

What do you enjoy doing? What would you like a man to be interested in? What sort of things would you like to do for fun in a relationship?

And then start doing those things.

You'll find authenticity in real life far more easily than on dating apps.

When I last dated, I thought there was plenty of sincerity, but less intelligence and articulateness. I’m not up for ‘sincere but dull as ditchwater’, either.

Online options give people so much choice and the ability to treat others in quite a disposable way.
I know a lot of people that have found their long term relationship via that format though so I genuinely think it's luck. Well I hope it is as otherwise I'm not sure what that says about me who is still online dating 2 years later.
I think the best option is to dip in and out of what you feel comfortable with. Plenty of breaks when things get tough and that goes the same for "real world" attempts.
I've met people in the real world too and they were no more sincere than those online sadly.