Father of children has left me

[Emmie354]

We have two kids, a 4 year old and a 3 month old. He lost his job recently and was out of work for 4 weeks till he finally secured something good paying. I was really proud of him and tried to be there for him but we ended up arguing a lot because he was in an on and off foul mood. In arguments he always dumps me then comes back. I always let him come back after being so upset. This time though, he said it’s over for good and left me in the worst position, we had been arguing about money as we needed to do a food shop and had no money. He stormed out yesterday and hasn’t contacted me since, knowing we had no food in the house and I don’t drive. I begged him not to leave and he just laughed at me. I’ve had to get some help of friends and I’m so embarrassed. I feel humiliated. What do I do when he contacts me next

Ignore the loser and stop putting your 4 year old through the repeated stress of daddy walking out. Stay with family. Get yourself sorted with what you can receive financially if not already and stand up for yourself and your kids.

Break the cycle and tell him he’s not welcome back until he sorts himself out and stops with this childish behaviour. Don’t underestimate how upsetting and unsettling this is for your son to witness this repeated behaviour from both of you.

Do you think he has someone else? That might explain his mood swings! He needs to man up and take responsibility but he won't until he realises what he's lost! Don't keep taking him back cause he will just see you as a comfort blanket.
Wait until he begs you to come back on your terms then he won't see you as a pushover.

Don’t contact him, and when he tries to waltz back in tell him it’s over, and mean it. Why are you doing this to yourself and your children?

apply today for universal credit and child Maintenece. Your money worries will be helped hugely then as it is serious if there was literally no food in the house (or do you mean there wasn’t what the children wanted?)

he’s happy to leave you and two kids with no food, have arguements rather than normal communication. This isn’t a loving partner, you deserve better

cliche but you are genuinely better off without him. How could he do this to you when you need him the most! Find your anger and remember, your children need a calm stable environment