To think we will always argue

[Beaubeau8]

I have adult diagnosed ADHD so maybe it’s my issue but why is it that we go about our life and everything is going well with your partner then all of a sudden you have a row! Could be over something silly but due to moods being unpredictable with people it’s just a given that we all argue and spoil it now and again. This is never in our intention but it seems to just happen. I wish there was more consistency like once a year once a month but it seems to happen every other week: he’s autistic and very intelligent I am ADHD we clash at times but when times are good we are like two peas in a pod.

If you stay together you'll always have this drama, up to you if you want to live like this.

I hope there are no kids in the middle of this. It’s not normal or healthy.

If you both wish to change perhaps you should consider couples counselling to help you both manage your communication and conflict resolution in a calmer and more productive way?

How often is normal to argue? I guess we are all so different.

I don’t think it’s normal at all to row that often.

My dh and I tend to bicker.. fairly regularly over stupid things, eg him staying on Peloton too long and making us late. He’ll somehow find a way to blame me! I think this is fairly normal.. it’s not hurtful or damaging.

This really isn’t normal OP. I’ve been with my husband for a long time, I could count on less than one hand the amount of actual arguments we have had.

We don’t agree on everything, that is normal, but “row” that is enough to spoil a mood- truly I wouldn’t even need one hand to count.

my DH and I never agued but I think I suppreessed a lot

Me and DP have argued maybe 5 times in 20 years?

Obviously we disagree on stuff more often than that, but that's just a discussion where one or both of us ends up compromising.

An actual argument where one of us ends up feeling upset is incredibly rare.