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Need a handhold;DH has come out as bisexual part two

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Uberella · 18/07/2025 21:38

Link to the previous thread as it’s almost full

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5374423-need-a-hand-holdmy-dh-has-come-out-as-bisexual?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

If anyone actually has some helpful advice I’d appreciate it;would be nice if others didn’t project their own issues onto my thread here

Need a hand hold;My DH has come out as bisexual. | Mumsnet

As the title says;my husband told within the last days that he’s bisexual and I’m absolutely broken. He says he loves me and still wants me but he’s...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/5374423-need-a-hand-holdmy-dh-has-come-out-as-bisexual?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

OP posts:

BiBoyMum · 25/07/2025 16:35

Toodles89 · 18/07/2025 21:59

I have only read your original post so not sure what went wrong in your other thread.

I have a few bi friends who are married (both same sex and opposite sex) and I do find it odd when they get upset if someone describes them as straight or lesbian (depending on sex of partner) and they have to correct them.

I can't see why sexual orientation matters once you're in a committed relationship. He's bi, good for him. That doesn't mean he can go and experience men so why does it matter?

Has he said why he feels the need to share this? Does he need to feel 'special'?

Why are you upset? Do you expect him to cheat?

All a bit bizarre, I'm sorry he's thrown this at you and I'm surprised your dd didn't just roll their eyes.

Sorry new here and haven't read anything but up to this post.

I am bisexual. It was something that I acknowledged in the midst of a long term relationship with a man. I found it important to acknowledge because it put some historical situations into context for me and made me realise why I behaved the way I did.

I also acknowledged that some of my presentation is directly aligned with my sexuality. The things I like to wear, I do, because of the symbolism.

I split with my ex for reasons totally unrelated to coming out as bisexual. We have children. Now I am with a woman. It is important to me that people who know us understand that I am bisexual because I don't want my former relationship to be seen as a mistake, or a stepping stone. I was very much into my partner, in all the ways I am into my new partner. I didn't feel compelled to be with him to conceal who I really was. I am bisexual. Any partner who wants me to hide that isn't for me.

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