why is it when i get asked whats for dinner, i get 'but i dont really fancy that'

[misdee]

ffs then tell me what you fancy for dinner, i am not a bloody mind reader.

every day.

[sighs]

Tell him to do the food shopping and the cooking then.

'what's for dinner?'

'you tell me!'

or sit down with him and discuss a menu plan

he does do the shopping.

we do usually menu plan but due to card being cloned and fighting to get the money back, we are having to live off stuff i nthe freezer and cupboards.

finally settled on chicken pie for tea.

but grrrrr.

I have deep empathy.

I get the hump when asked 'what's for supper?' and I say what it is, he makes a childish face and replies 'I don't like it/do I have to eat broccoli/carrot/any veg?'

He does not/cannot cook at all, does not do any food shopping and won't get involved in meal planning as he is a lazy idiot far to busy and important.

Absolutely no way I would put up with that. We both work. I do the food planning and cooking. DH shops and buys what he is told, plus washes up afterwards. If he wants something different than I am planning to cook, he is always free to buy it whilst shopping and prepare it for us. Seems to work well for us.

Having someone moaning who contributes nothing to the process would be like a red rag to a bull for me.

Well, if he doesn't fancy wat you are cooking - let him cook his on.

I do the shopping and the food planning here. I do all the cooking too. Dh, and DD for that matter, get what is served. Fortunately he (and DD) is more than happy with the arrangement

I get that. Depending on my mood i say:

oh - what do you fancy then?
well, that's what I've planned
get your own bloody dinner

I've never met someone who talks abut "what he fancies" for dinner as much as DH - unbelievable - it's like having another child around isn't it?

The highest praise I get for any meal I make is "That was OK". When I ask what he wants for dinner, I get "Something delicious and different". Well, if he can't think of something delicious and different, how the hell does he expect me to keep coming up with that night after night??

Now, everyone in the house gets what I can be bothered to cook and tough shit if they don't like it. I have 3 boys who all like/dislike different things and a dh who won't eat meat. I was talking to a caterer the other week and mentioned this and she looked horrified. She asked how on earth I managed to cater for that. By putting something on the table and telling them to get a sandwich if they don't like it.

sorry but - it's lovely to see you posting about normal marital stuff instead of worrying about his health

Imagine being able to sigh about it though misdee, this time last year you'd have loved something this normal! (I have a dd who reacts like that but makes no suggestions!)

next time he asks, jsut say 'what would you like'? He needs to get involved in these decisions, you're not there to wait on him any more

misdee-i get this too!from dh,dd and ds1.nobody likes same thing!im supposed to be the fussy one!as you said 'just tell me what you want!!'

i think if he ate hospital food for two years he can darned well put up with what i'm cooking.

kama, yes he is a fussy bugger (meant in an affectionate way) and can stomache certains textures and tastes. the same way i cant stand strong cheese sauces and he loves them. i prefer tomato based pasta sauces.

i am skimming half a chicken breast off the chicken pie meat so i can do a stirfry later on, as no-one will touch it here and i love it.

misdee huge sympathies on this one, its normally when we're in Tesco

what would you like for tea?

hhmm, don't know, whatever, can't really think of anything

we're in one of the biggest supermarkets in Europe FFS, how can you not have any ideas?!?!?!?!?!?!!?!?!

My DH is lucky if there is some food ready when he gets home of an evening and is always suitably grateful if I have managed anything more ambitious than pasta and sauce. If he doesn't like what has been made he can always rustle something up for himself!

I ask dh every morning what do you fancy for dinner before I take the meat or whatever out of the freezer he says "don`t mind"

So I take out whatever then he phones on the way home for work asks whats for dinner and when I tell him he says I don`t want that can you make me.....

FFS No make it yourself

Does my head in