Partner: currently going through a horribly complex extended divorce which has been going on for years. He’s almost catatonic with depression from the stress and financial aspect (lawyers costing almost 6-8k a month). We’ve been together for 2 of those years (no cross over!)
Mother: complex mental health issues, currently staying with me (was supposed to be a week, now in week 4!!) personality disorder and god knows how many other issues going on
Colleagues: official support for x 2 people going through HR issues/performance problems who I am required to check in with daily informally and weekly formally from a managerial perspective. This essentially turns into me being a sound board for wider life issues and stress
Teenagers: one going through a break up after a 2 year first love relationship. One just finished mocks and putting herself through god knows how much stress to do better
Best friend: going through a divorce she doesn’t want and utterly heartbroken
I cannot remember the last time someone asked me if I was ok or how I am doing. I took a day off work the other day, turned my phone off for the day and went to the beach, had lunch, read my book and swam. It was such a respite. Turned my phone on at 6pm to god knows how many messages and missed calls. Half of which were people just giving me updates of their latest episode or what someone had said to them or screenshots of emails/txts.
I am fucking exhausted by it all. I am not a martyr by any stretch but at what point do you cut these people off to a degree and say I can’t do this