Thank you for taking the time to read and reply. I’m feeling a little lost and numb so anything helps.i have a husband of 10 years and an 8 month old daughter.
A few things to note. I’m a childhood SA survivor and my husband knows this and my triggers. He knows my boundaries and had promised to respect them.
My husband has a footferish. I am fine with it but he hate having it. I had dealt with years of neglecting me sexually whilst still watching foot fetish video. I explained time and time again that it was making me feel insecure because he was neglecting me. He kept watching the videos and disregarding my boundary. Fine I got over it despite the hurt.
Yesterday, I accidentally spotted a note on his phone, that was clearly a write up asking someone to make a video for him. He was detailing what he wanted her to do. After confronting him, I found out that he has gone on Vinted, bought and hid a pair of shoes which he was ‘using in private’ and at the same time he was messaging the girl he bought them off multiple times for videos of her doing some sort of foot fetish acts. I haven’t seen the messages or the videos (apparently he got banned from vinted.)
Would you class this as cheating?