HPV positive

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Boyfriend is trying to accuse me of cheating even though I’ve told him to research what HPV is and that it’s super super common. It’s causing arguments, can’t get through to him. Help me x

Ditch him. He's being a dick.

Hi, OP. We've moved your thread over to our Relationships board as we thought you might get some useful responses here.

Which he could have passed on to you. Does he know that?

Surely a quick google will tell him otherwise . I mean unless you were both virgins when you met

I came up hpv positive a couple of years ago and then the follow up smear 1 year later showed it had cleared. I have been with dh for 30odd years. It can lie dormant for years as I know I haven't had sex with anyone else.

It even says on the nhs letter you get that it lies dormant and no one can ever know if they have it or not

I had this a couple of years back. I had been single for ages and had always had regular smear tests. After treatment I tested negative the following year. How old is your boyfriend as he sounds like a teenager?

I had hpv on two smears, then it cleared by itself. He needs to do some research ffs!!! It could have been him that gave it to you in the first place.

F that. He is either an idiot or very very young. If he won't do his own research despite what you've told him and it's causing arguments all you can do is walk away and hope he grows up. You don't need to prove your innocence because you haven't done anything wrong.

I’ve had the same sexual partner for over 25 years. I’ve had hpv positive throughout various smear tests. Some times it just happens. He’s never ever cheated on me and vice versa. My hpv turned into cin2 though not saying yours will cos the majority of them don’t, it’s just one joy of being a woman xx

You’ll all be so shocked. He’s 33. We’ve been together for 5 years. I’ve told him to literally look on the NHS website but nope. Feels like he’s purposely trying to shame me for something that isn’t even my fault.

He'd get a shock if he looked at the stats because most sexually active people have been exposed to it at some point in their lives and have it lying dormant. It's something crazy like 95%.

I work in sexual health. About 80% of sexually active adults of my generation have had HPV at some point in their life. Now I’m in my 40s so none of us got the HPV vaccine (which isn’t full proof and isn’t going to protect against every strain, even though it’s a game changer).

It’s incredibly common. You may have had it forever. He may have given it to you. I bet he’s never been tested for HPV. 🙄 Because we don’t test heterosexual men as routine on the NHS. The only reason women get tested usually is as part of cervical smear testing.

While it’s obviously upsetting to hear you have been exposed to an STI, it sounds like you’ve done the right thing by being honest, and he is being a jerk.

This isn’t the sort of person you want to dedicate the best years of your life to.

Use this situation as a sign to reevaluate your life right now.

You could have caught it from him!
If he won't listen and is not being nice to you about this, dump him - he's not good long term partner material.

He's an arsehole. Dump and block (and I never say block!)

There's no excuse for his behaviour in this day and age when you can easily google reputable sources to find out if what you are telling him is true. So dump him for being an arse and for being a total bonehead.