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How to find biological parent

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Findingdad · 16/07/2025 13:29

Long story short, my biological father split from my mum shortly after I was born and there’s been no contact since. I’ve thought about trying to trace him a few times over the years but it’s never been the right time. However he’d now be approaching his 70s (if he’s still alive) so it feels like now or never.

I know very little about him apart from his name (which unfortunately is not unusual), rough age and where he grew up. I’ve tried the various DNA match services but no joy and I don’t really know where else to try.

Has anyone been in this situation & might have some advice? I’m well aware that he might not be open to this and I might not like what I find, but I’m prepared. As a side note my biological mum is still alive but knows about as much as me.

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Izzadoraduncancan · 16/07/2025 17:04

I went through similar. I found my dad by finding a birth cert that listed his father’s occupation. I then posted on the local Facebook page where he came from asking for any descendants of my grandfather. Within a few minutes I knew my dad was alive. I met him. It was the right thing to do, and I have no regrets

pertainingtoparticularism · 16/07/2025 17:42

MadameSzyszkoBohusz · 16/07/2025 17:03

I can imagine, @pertainingtoparticularism. I wasn’t planning to reach out to mine, as I’m sure it would be another disappointment.

It’s a shame though - having semi-stalked their Facebook profiles, they both look like fun people who I have a lot in common with. The three of us even all work in different branches of the same industry.

Yes similar @MadameSzyszkoBohusz. Especially the girls, we all are quite similar in our interests and general type of people. But it wasn't to be sadly. Just too much dysfunction stemming from all our parents I think and it hurt too much to continue. I'm glad I took it really slowly at least and could disappear without too much fuss. Seems like a wise choice you've made. X

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