Grieving end of a relationship.

[SoAiNa]

My partner has decided to leave and I'm utterly heartbroken and devastated. We have 3 kids together and it's come as such a shock because whilst we have cracks I always thought it was the strain of three kids so young and I never thought we'd break. I guess none of that matters now.

What I want to hear is positive story's, how people find themselves after being one half of a whole for such a long time. I'm not interested in dating or anything naturally but even story's of finding love again after heartbreak would be nice. I just need to see past the fog and knowing that even though it feels like it right now that this isn't the end of the world. Just anything to make me feel Abit lighter right now would be nice.

I’m in a similar boat and don’t really have any advice but didn’t want to read without commenting. If it’s just happened you will probably be in a state of shock. My only advice would be to get some legal advice early. In my situation I was told in no uncertain terms I was not going to live in our house anymore. Which has meant I’ve been separated from my own DC. I can’t now believe I let this happen but I was too shocked to fight him. The most pain you can imagine. Whilst it may not be or feel like your priority right now, get your legal and financial ducks in a row and make sure your have your kids stay with you. Let him go and set about creating your secure environment with your children.

I can only give you a Mumsnetty hug and give you hope, based on my life experience that you will get through this. 💔 You really will. Just keep getting up everyday, put one foot in front of the other and keep on keeping on.

Next year this time you will have gained perspective, you will be stronger, organised and feeling so much better. This I know.

Meantime, get legal advice, only discuss childcare arrangements with him, nothing else, and basically wipe him out of your life. Block him. Seize your power.

Keep your dignity and maybe arrange some counselling.
You will get through this. Keep the faith & mentally tell him to fk off.