Divorced from ex / horribly emotionally abusive and a cheater to boot. I was in a relationship with him from teens so it has taken me a lot of therapy to work through the trauma. We have beautiful children who I love abs adore. Ex sees children a couple of times a week but his emotionally abusive patterns are impacting them. Today for example he took youngest child to an adult event (thInk long sporting fixture), child is great but is young (7) and tries his best to handle expectations of father but he struggles. Knew when he came home this evening that he had had a tough day. We had a relaxing evening and then DC said at lunch today I was making faces (he demonstrated, I think it’s more of a stim when he feels disregulated) and Daddy said in front of others they were with, stop being odd. DC was hurt by this. I try my best to encourage children to rise above it, console them and bolster them but what else can I do - ex has always felt DC should have been more at every stage and it shreds their confidence.