Husband makes fun of my depression

[Mummysworld25]

I recently started taking Zoloft as I have a lot of things I'm dealing with. I took it a few years ago at the urging of my therapist but I did not really think it helped so I stopped. Back then, my husband mocked me one day saying I was on "crazy pills". When i restarted it, I did not really want to tell him but he has seen them in the bathroom. Today he started calling me a pill popper. (Zoloft is the only medication I even take and Ive never once tried drugs.) i was very upset and went to sit in my bed. The kids came up there to sit with me. He saw us all a little later and yelled at everyone to get up because they dont need to live in an SSRI induced coma like me. I truly don't know how to handle this. I'm on the tiniest dose of it. I'm not at a level of depression where I cant get out of bed or anything, just for clarification. Am I wrong for being upset by these names? Am I being too sensitive? It just seems so mean.

Is your husband cruel and undermining in other ways?
If so I'm not surprised you're a bit depressed.
Please take care of yourself, your health and your children.

I’m guessing he’s one of the things you’re dealing with that is resulting in you having to take the tablets. He sounds like a completely unsupportive bastard. I’m so sad for you @Mummysworld25 Are you getting support and kindness from anywhere else?

He sounds like a nasty person and undoubtedly contributing to your depression.

Bloody hell, no wonder you're depressed, being married to a swine like him.

The best treatment for that type of depression is not medication, but to divorce the abusive bastard who's causing it.

What's he like the rest of the time @Mummysworld25 ?

I agree with PPs - he is very likely to be at least some of the cause of your low mood

Well isn’t he a peach prick.

no wonder your struggling. Please tell him from me (anti depressant user for 20+ years, some of those at the absolute maximum dose) to fuck the fuck off and, when he gets there fuck off a bit more.

But seriously, he’s an abusive twat and you should take the dose that enables you to gather the strength to leave him. But once you do, you probably won’t need them.

Well no wonder you didn't think the pills were working, hard to feel any better when you live with somebody like that.

I would honestly consider leaving him. I don't say that often but this has so many issues, what if your children needed antidepressants in the future? His views on mental health are extremely out dated and toxic.

On top of that, if this is his view on all medications how can you be sure he would be compliant if he had his own mental or even physical health conditions? What if he sustained and injury and ended up needing to take pain killers, or nerve blockers? What about medication for a long term illness? Frankly he sounds incredibly selfish and childish.

Remember op, you are taking your medication because you want to get better. He's belittling you for that which is effectively saying he doesn't care if you get better, he doesn't care if you're unwell, he expects you to mask and to suffer to appease him and his opinions (not anybody else's because nobody else would ever know).

If you want to give him a chance explain how it makes you feel. Give him one chance. Once.

Oh wow - he sounds cruel and insensitive. Does he usually mock your problems or use any insecurities you may have against you?

I’d be depressed if I was married to him and he treated me and my children so appallingly.

i think you’d find a divorce much more effective than any tablets

I just want to cry at all the awful shit kids have had to witness. I agree that HE is your depression, and you will probably find it miraculously cured if you left.

Wow. I actually really needed to hear this part about him mocking me for trying to get better. That is such a good point. He is constantly telling me I am no fun, I'm not the girl he married, I've changed... yet when I try to be fun or do something to be better, even taking meds, he makes fun of me. Of course he makes fun of me going to therapy too. You would think if someone really thought you had changed for the worse, theyd be supportive of you trying to make changes for the better.

It’s normal to be upset. No, you’re not being over sensitive. Yes, he’s being mean.
I’ve got to admit I’ve never been a fan of antidepressants- but i recently got so bad I felt paralyzed, I nearly gave in to them. So I’m not going to criticize anyone who genuinely needs them - and frankly his behaviour would be enough to have most people reaching for more. I can understand his lack of understanding- his desire for you to get off them - but the cruelty and lack of empathy I can’t get my head around. And I’m struggling to believe that these character traits are reserved just for your antidepressants.