I feel like I’m losing my mind, I really need some insights.
DP has been really distant lately. Spending longer on his phone playing games, criticising me for small things, less affectionate generally and a massive reduction in how often we have sex.
Criticism:
⁃ Your handbag is so messy inside, you really need to get a grip
⁃ You’re so loud (when I’m playing with DD)
⁃ He’s stopped eating things I cook because he saw me put too much salt in some food I was making a few weeks ago and so wants to make his own (it was the same amount of salt as always)
⁃ You’re always tired, you let me down all the time because you want to rest
⁃ Why did you buy that for holiday? (A nice handbag) It’s ridiculous, now I have to buy something for myself to carry my phone in
⁃ You need to professionally get a leg wax because you don’t do it properly
writing it down it doesn’t feel like a lot but it really feels constant. When I say anything he says “you need to learn how to take criticism”
We’ve been having sex a lot less recently. I mentioned this a few weeks ago and he said “well YOU need to initiate more”. Fine.
Yesterday he stayed off work because he was tired. I went to work as usual, when I got back he said “I wanked all day today” and I said “must’ve been a busy day”. He said “are you jealous?”.
At night time he was falling asleep and I said it felt odd we weren’t having sex and he said that. He said “well I can’t remember the last time you were seductive”.
I Try and make him feel wanted all the time - kissing, cuddling, compliments. I try and look after myself and look nice.
a few weeks ago we were having sex everyday. Then nothing.
The seductive comment hurt. He said I just lie there and expect sex. I really don’t. But I feel like I don’t want to chase a man who’s not interested in me.
it was a shouting match, he said that if I wanted more sex I should do it. I explained that when DD goes to bed, he goes outside for an hour and a half, then wants to eat, then gets into bed around 11.30 when I’m knackered.
I feel like I’m walking on egg shells around him, catering to him and I’m just background character.