First night away after baby

[BeNiftyPanda]

5 months PP, as with many new parents our lives and now all conversations pretty much revolve around new dear daughter. We’ve fallen in to the trap of rarely seeing each other as partners and instead parents. Going to book a night away to mix things up- would people recommend a city break or more rural trip as first night away? In the uk. City break options for bars or maybe activities could be useful if conversation is a bit dry (having little life outside of baby care currently!) or do people think somewhere pretty and rural a more romantic idea? Suggestions/advice on first night away without baby to bring us closer again appreciated!

That sounds a lovely idea It’s so easy to lose that connection when a baby however much wanted throws a hand grenade into your life
What did you like to do pre DD?
Both sound lovely but Personally I love winter and would be at peace in a country hotel somewhere with a crackling log fire good food and a nice glass of red after a bracing walk
i also love the coast.
in fact post baby I would’ve loved anything away with DH
What region of Uk do you live?
Uk or a city break like Florence( I adore) or Oxford or Bath uk

Neither. I would just book a local hotel. This has two advantages. The first is that you are close by in case things go poorly. The second is that you don’t waste precious couple time traveling.

I promise, the local hotel can be the most romantic place in the world. I personally recommend picking a place that does room service.

Honestly it doesn't matter where you go. That's all just background noise. What matters is that you make time for each other.

I may have some advice based on my own experiences. My husband and I try to have 2-3 weekends away per year since having children (now 6 and 4), so we've had a few hits and misses along the road.

• Don't set your expectations too high. One night away isn't going to magically reset the whole dynamic of your relationship. Enjoy the night away, but be realistic. The babysitter can cancel. The baby may become ill. Or you may end up arguing the whole time you have together. It's not the end of the world and there will be other nights away together
• Set a timer for talks about your child. It's natural to want to talk about him/her, but stop yourself before it turns into the only topic of the night.
• Don't use this time to make all sorts of practical arrangements. I know you have some uninterrupted time, but this is not the time or place to discuss your taxes and budgets. Make it fun and breezy.
• If part of your trip doesn't go as you planned, try not to make it into a bigger deal than it has to be. Having a disappointing hotel room or a horrible meal goes down so much easier if you can laugh about it. If you expect everything to be perfect, it can only go badly. And down the line, you probably won't remember every hotel and restaurant. But I can assure you, you'll remember the one place that you snuck out of in the middle of the night. And those are the stories you'll talk about later on.