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I opened up to my parents about my relationship and that I want a divorce

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Newname42 · 14/07/2025 20:37

I never thought I would come to this point and I’m not a person who shares easily, but today, after another episode of verbal abuse, I told my parents what’s going on in my relationship and that I want a divorce. It wasn’t easy, they get on well with my husband and we also have a baby, but after an initial ‘it will be fine, you’re just stressed’ and after learning the full extent of the abuse, they fully support me and helped me to make a plan to leave safely. For various reasons we need to wait a few more months, but finally I feel that I might be free and safe again. I’m in tears but also I feel more empowered than I ever felt during these past couple of years when his abuse started when I was pregnant.

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springruns · 14/07/2025 20:39

Well done!! Im pleased your parents are being supportive. Are you safe until you need to leave?

Newname42 · 14/07/2025 20:43

Thank you! Yes, I think I can keep myself and my baby safe for now. Although his abuse increases, it’s never been physical. I just need a few more months to put steps in place to make my leaving safer, and I’ll play the part of the agreeable wife in the meantime which keeps him at bay. As long as I don’t open my mouth I’m ok.

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MarxistMags · 14/07/2025 20:46

Well done. And I'm glad your parents are supportive of you. You WILL get through this.

Newname42 · 14/07/2025 20:56

MarxistMags · 14/07/2025 20:46

Well done. And I'm glad your parents are supportive of you. You WILL get through this.

Thanks, that’s what I need to hear. The thought of leaving is still daunting and I think he’ll make leaving as difficult as he can for me, I also think he might hurt us when he finds out, but I’m no longer alone in this and we’ll take our time to prepare, I tell myself that I just need to keep focusing on the end goal.

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bigfatdoormat · 14/07/2025 22:36

Hoping all goes well for you so glad you're getting the support you need. Don't leave it too long xx

Cheepcheepcheep · 14/07/2025 22:37

Come back to this thread whenever you need to - it’s a process. And well done for opening up.

stayathomer · 14/07/2025 22:38

Hugs op, Id say that was so difficult x

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