Dates with the Ex

[Floradear]

You shouldn't try to go back, right!
I know now.
Met exH at a conference. We chatted, caught up on 10 years of news. He is a nice bloke. No kids.
We met later for drinks, then arranged a date. Yes we slept together. Two more dates, all cheerful.

Recently I had been dating a woman, we were close then she moved on.w
ExH and I used to go to a place for alfresco sex. We decided to recreate the past on Saturday. It should have been fun. It was only OK. Spent yesterday feeling dull and flat.
I went to the office today instead of WFH, want to keep busy and be around with others.
I shall keep to myself for a while while I make up my mind. So far I don't know what I want. Man or woman, casual or leading to serious?
Any comments from anyone who has been in similar situation.

There’s a lot to unpack here! An ex can be familiar but trying to recreate the past never works. Too much time has passed and you’re different people now. It might work out if you’ve both learned from what happened before, and you genuinely want to do things differently this time.

But you probably need to be honest about why you’re meeting up. Is it because it’s easy? Because you’re still getting over your breakup?
Sounds like you need to take a step back and work out what and who you want.

Just thinking about getting back with an ex (any ex) gives me the ick. It’s familiar for sure, but in a bad way.

Thanks, if I could have left it at the dates where he was at my house it would have been ok. Going to the woodland was the mistake. We are different to how we were 12 years ago.