Where to start, my name is Alex, I’m 37 years old. Married and have a beutiful 5 year old daughter. 2 weeks ago, my wife decided to end our 8 year marriage, we have grown distant for a few years now. Not much intimacy, sex or general warmth from earth other. Even going out turned into a hardship. To understand the reasons with me. I have cannabis addiction, an addiction which I always told myself wouldn't affect my friends, family and work life. And unfortunately it has effected everything.nothing over the top to what I know people smoke, but when you it spending your evenings inside a shed smoking for a couple hours every night. Over time it does take an effect.
it all started two weeks last Sunday, after we visited my parents for Sunday dinner, we got home, but my daughter to be,she came down and said we aren’t compatible anymore, she still loves me but isn’t in love with me! Obviously my emotions, the fear of the my daughter coming from a broken family, me having the traditional values of having both a mum and dad present and in love and to show my daughter. Broke me, I feel empty and useless as a human, husband and a father. She basically stone faced be for over a week, not much talking or communicating.
one of the worse things is did is take her for granted. Which spiralled out of control. Her taking control of the house, being the one who parents our child. And me, in her own words, was being with a son than a man!
there’s been some arguments amongst the last few weeks. One being a picture which was left faced leaning back in my wardrobe with the picture of me and her. It was such a position that it felt done on purpose to gain a reaction. When confronted, she used the fact I wanted to keep memories of our life like some joint pictures, family pictures and pictures of our child. Tik this point she denies any wrong doing. Using that fact I wanted to keep some pictures or the frames in question, when pushed to give me an answer. She just said you wanted the frame! But why leave the picture in? Maybe to her it was a bad reminder of the past we once shared.
another issue I’ve had to contend with, is not that she doesn’t love me or finds me attractive, only since I did my own reasearch, it’s not only the appearance but the character of me. I became isolated, didn’t find joy in the world, love or enjoying life!
the next issue which I find weird, is one day I turned round and told here I didn’t love her anymore, which she said that’s fine. Which gave me relieve for like an hour, than realised I was kidding myself, I do love her!
the following day we had another argument whilst our daughter was out. I pressed her more, which in turn made her mention that I said I didn’t love her! Which I find bizarre because it didn’t bother her at the time.
another he r one was our open discussion about new relationships, hoping I would find and other woman and have a family! I just don’t know how to take this!
any advice would be appreciated and any question you may have to understand my predicament.