Feel So Guilty

[Momchick]

Hi, I need some advice. My mother in law is in town and we went shopping the other day. While we were out my m.i.l. decided to treat me to lunch. After we returned home, my husband was angry that we didn't bring him anything from the restaurant. I tried to explain that it was just lunch- nothing fancy. He's still upset and hasn't spoken to me or my mother in law( his mom) in days. I feel guilty but we weren't intentionally leaving him out. As my suggestions to get back into his good graces?

I just re-read your title - what on earth do you feel guilty about? As for getting back into your DH’s good books, I’d say it’s he who should be trying to get back into yours. This is not normal behaviour, OP, and you shouldn’t have to put up with it.

This reads as a fake wind-up post, designed to provoke angry responses..

You don’t need to “get back into his good graces” , You just need to tell him to grow up. He sounds pathetic!

Don’t have children with him.

Divorce him.

The silent treatment is one of the biggest red flags 🚩 in the book. He is not a keeper and not someone to reproduce with.

Look him straight in the eye and tell him his behaviour is unbecoming of an adult and you will not pander to his immaturity. I suspect given your desire to be back in his ‘good graces’, there’s probably a dysfunctional relationship backstory.

This is who he is, a grown arse man acting like a child. You need to decide if a relationship with a man baby is worth prioritising.

The OP hasn't returned- what a surprise 🙄

What's his problem ? He should be happy that you got a little treat. I'd watch my back

Hi, I want to sincerely thank everyone who responded to my original post. You have helped me to realize I didn't behave badly in this situation.

Oh good.
Are you going to leave him?

Why can’t he go out and get his own lunch. He wasn’t there. Were you supposed to schlep a bag of food around for him all day. This is a dumb fight on his part. You did nothing wrong.

The silent treatment is an abuse tactic.

He's trying to train you like a dog to fetch for him whenever you get something for you, even something as little as a meal out.

I'd be out of there, that's really controlling.

I just want to add, what do you think you did wrong by not getting food for him when he wasn't even there and is capable of feeding himself? Feeling guilty is for when you do something wrong, not when you go to a lunch you were invited to.

Why isn’t he going after his mother, I mean he’s acting like a big baby. He needs to mature a little more. He’s not done yet.tell your MIL to take him back home. Ick