Couples/Marriage Counselling

[YellowExcavator]

For anyone who has had couples/marriage counselling, did you find it beneficial? I feel like my marriage is effectively over but want to give counselling a try for clarity. There's no physical abuse in the relationship but we're living in a very toxic environment where we're both unhappy and it's unhealthy, for us and our young DC. I'd prefer couples counselling to solo counselling as it takes 2 to work at a marriage and I'd feel resentful being the only one putting in the effort.

What do you mean by toxic environment?. Verbal abuse or other types of abuse?. If there is abuse of ANY type within the relationship couples counselling is not recommended.

This.

And it also depends what the core issues are.

For example if the core issue is poor communication then yes, counselling together is a good idea so that you can learn to communicate better. If however the issue is that you just don’t like each other anymore then it doesn’t matter how well you can communicate that, the marriage is still over.

There is no communication at all. We live very seperate lives under the same roof. Everything we do/don't do seems to annoy the other. I feel it's over but I've been very quick to cut relationships/friendships off in the past (I've never regretted it). However, now there are kids involved, I don't want to make any rash decisions as it won't just effect me. I would.never stay in an unhappy relationship purely 'for the kids' as I know that's counterproductive, but if there's any way of salvaging things I'd like to explore it.

By toxic, I mean there's always an underlying feeling of resentment between us. It's not s happy atmosphere. You could cut the tension with a knife.

Anyone have any personal experience?