Tired of it all

[Jdkwtd]

Been in a relationship for 8 years, just engaged last year. Getting married in 2 weeks. Problem last 6 months im the only one who has been doing all the cleaning and maintaining while the other sits on their phone all evening and does nothing. They also work from home as well and I work out of the home, I still come home everyday to a messy house and end up cleaning, entertaining kids, fixing whatever needs fixed. They get off work and act like they are just so exhausted they can't function. 2 kids who have ruined the furniture and rooms are straight up pigs, my 2 kids keep there room clean and pick up after themselves.. what would you do, im at the point where id rather just do it on my own if I gotta do it anyway

Cancel the wedding that’s what I’d do x

I agree. Unless you want more of the same for the foreseeable future.

I wouldn’t live like this. I’m not sure you’ve got a great package there!

I honestly think you know the answer. Fuck that shit.

Well before your wedding is the best you’re going to get. So if this is nice for you, crack on. If it isn’t, don’t.

Cancel the wedding, the living together and very probably the relationship too (although the last two might be automatic after the first one).

You are worth more than this. You are not an unpaid cleaner and sex aid, you are supposedly an equal partner in a loving and supportive relationship. Get angry at being used and abused.

@Jdkwtd I’ll be honest, it sounds like you’ve been carrying more than your fair share lately. Eight years together, engaged, wedding just round the corner, and you’re still the one doing all the graft at home. That’s a lot for anyone, and I don’t blame you for feeling worn out.

You really should give yourself some credit. You’re working hard—out earning a living, then coming home to sort the house, keep the kids in line, and fix whatever needs fixing. That’s proper dedication, and I hope you know it doesn’t go unnoticed, even if it feels like it sometimes. You’re doing a cracking job, even if the thanks are a bit thin on the ground.

Thing is, every couple hits rough patches, especially when life’s busy and kids are involved. But you shouldn’t be left to do it all on your own. You deserve a proper partnership, not to feel like you’re running the whole show solo. Maybe it’s time for a heart-to-heart with him—nothing heavy, just an honest chat about how you’re feeling. Sometimes folk don’t see what’s right in front of them until you spell it out. Just be straight: you’re knackered, you need a hand, and it’s not fair for it all to land on you.

If things don’t change, it’s alright to set a few boundaries. Everyone in the house should muck in, not just you. Maybe try a rota, or just make it clear what you’re willing to do and what you’re not. And if nothing shifts, it’s okay to think about what’s best for you and your kids. You don’t have to just put up with it.

You’re not alone in this—loads of women feel like they’re carrying the load at home. Wanting things to be fair doesn’t make you a nag or a bad partner. Remember, you deserve to feel supported and happy, not just needed. Trust yourself—you’re stronger than you think, and you’ve already shown you can handle a lot. Just don’t forget to look after yourself as well, alright?

Get out before you are legally tied to this man child

Life is so freaking busy that one person can’t deal with it all. You are gonna end up very miserable and resentful. Have a serious chat about your expectations and see. i would postpone the wedding. if nothing changes then you at least have your answer!