DH and I have 2 pre school children, 4 & 2. Weekends are fairly samey- food shop, park, library, find something to do. I’d love to see other couples/families more but we just don’t really have anyone. DH has just one friend he sees- they have a young family too and I like seeing them. But their DD is severely autistic and they have just withdrawn socially, which I totally understand. Easier for them to do what works for their DD which often means just being at home on their own. That’s it for my DH, there is no one else in his social circle.
I have quite a few friends but the situations just don’t align with weekend plans. My good friend from school married a man with a best mate who they are so close to, they decided to live in the same street and have children identical ages. The men arrange to see each other/families constantly-I never get a look in with my friend. I’ve tried and nothing ever comes of it and she never asks me (as the plans are just made for her quite easily- she’s very popular with lots of people). Another friend’s husband works at weekends. My 2 close work friends don’t have kids, and spend their weekends either renovating their homes or going away doing things. Best mate is childless and lives 4 hours away. Made a mum friend but I would just feel strange to suggest meeting as a family, she always seems busy and has lots of friends who have families. She met them in pregnancy through that Peanut app, feel like I should have done that and have missed out on a huge part of creating a social life. Also think well people never ask to see me/us, so it feels like we aren’t in demand/wanted to be social with.
How do you make adult couple/family friends?! Thought when DD starts school in Sept we might meet some people. After the welcome meeting at her school though, I felt a bit discouraged.