Relationship issues

[AJKmummy]

Before I start I’d like to mention I have an extreme fear of rodents things like mice etc. I fear them severely. This is very much known to those close to me.

so a few months ago I had a mouse enter my flat due to neighbours , id accidently let it in after a late night shift and entering via the door next to communal bins (winter). We caught and got rid strait away and had someone out to confirm their wasn’t any more. This caused me to not sleep or eat for a good while. I was pregnant and it made me become very unwell. My partner was aware and involved with all of this. I made him promise not to mention them as it scared me , he has mentioned them a few times and I beg him not to talk about people close by with mice problems as this scares me and it makes me unwell.

today he had decided to tell me about our neighbours mice problems again. Saying how they’ve got these issues and it’s made me again unwell. I’ve broken down because at this point it feels like he’s doing it by purpose and he must find it amusing for me to be so scared and unwell. What do I do? I can’t take it anymore

You poor thing. This is so debilitating.

I’ve just read that 1 in 6 people across the UK suffer from musophobia. I can only suggest, if you can afford it, to get some therapy to help you handle your fear.

I occasionally see mice in my garden. I’ve had rats too until I stopped feeding the birds coupled with the rat catcher. I’m fortunate that I don’t fear rodents but I’d never want to handle one. 🤷‍♀️

It sounds as though he is getting pleasure out of upsetting you OP.

Is this behaviour something new or is he normally cruel?

You need to tell him what you have said here : that he is making you ill. Do you have any relatives or friends you could stay with for a break away from the situation? Tell him you'll come back when he stops trying to deliberately upset you.

Does he have form for being cruel in other ways? If not, I'd assume it's an accident and make the point again? I don't see what else you can do re him saying things.

But re what you do to actually fix it. You can't solve a phobia by making sure noone ever mentions it again. Would you consider seeing a therapist that deals in phobias?