Boyfriend being strange with phone

[DaisyLou33]

I noticed my partner had his phone face down a lot which he doesn't normally do when we were away. I asked him why a day later and he said so no one can see my messages. I said why are you worried what people see? Are you hiding it from me.

He got really defensive and angry, I'm the worst basically. Always accusing him (I don't) I'm crazy for making a big deal out of it. He shouldn't have to reassure me that he's not hiding anything from me, that's on me. It's his private phone and his business.

I said okay, what if I wanted to use the internet on your phone then since you pick my phone up all the time. He said I'd be annoyed if you went on my messages but internet is okay. If you asked me. I said why ask you as you never ask me first.

I just find the whole thing really weird. Am I wrong here?

The sudden change in his behaviour is suspicious, secrecy around phones is never a good sign.

Why is he picking up your phone all the time?
It sounds like one of those situations where the guy is cheating or thinking about it, and so assumes their partner is as well (hence looking at your phone).

He has something to hide from you obviously. I don't think I've ever come across a situation as you describe where it doesn't end up that they were cheating.

How long have you been together? The behaviour does sound off.

Lock your phone.

And start making plans to leave him.

My husband changed his phone password - a few months later he left me.

Oh, you're crazy for making a big deal out of it are you? And you're 'always accusing him'?

He got really defensive and angry, I'm the worst basically. Always accusing him (I don't) I'm crazy for making a big deal out of it. He shouldn't have to reassure me that he's not hiding anything from me, that's on me. It's his private phone and his business

Fuck. That.

I really hope you don't live together and would love to see his face when you tell him it's over.

I would be inclined to think he is hiding something if he suddenly has changed the way he handles his phone. Has he started being out a lot more?

You have been posting about this relationship for months. You need to cone to the realisation that it’s a crap relationship and going nowhere.

This is weird, he's actively hiding his phone screen and using your phone to surf the net or whatever.
I put my phone down with the screen downwards towards the table or whatever, but it's because I have it on silent and I don't want to be distracted by notifications. If I want to look at something on the internet etc I use my phone.
Sorry OP, I'd be very suspicious in your situation.

Yeah he admitted so NOBODY could see his messages which is what scared me. He actually admitted that. Then he got annoyed when I wanted reassurance. That he shouldn't have to tell me he's not hiding something even though he told me he was hiding his messages. And he quite often picks up my phone to check the weather etc and I think nothing of it and he doesn't ask me. So I found that odd.

Op the least he could of done is to have reasured you by showing you his phone, that's the least, but he hasn't, so now you treat him the same with your phone, change the password, when he asks just say what he said to you and walk away,
Treat him the same op