Can WA help me?

[VenusJupiter]

Sorry D day is approaching and I'm getting worked up because STBX told me that he isn't going to tell me what days he is working anymore because I'm leaving the house ( taking DD with me) and he says he wants to be here so i sign for 50 50 childcare or he won't let me leave. He works every day and is home unreasonable hours. He doesn't really do any childcare , but being the bully he is has said he wants 50/50 custody ( all to avoid paying child support. Also he is holding onto her British Passport, so for that I don't trust him because he might run off with her to his parents homeland of Nigeria ( he is a British citizen). At present he gives me no money and there was a hoo-ha over the child benefit as he was saying it should be in his name , but we could put my bank details. I was savvy to just apply for it on my own as we are not married.

Anyway my question is since I am meeting secretly with support services like WA. Can I have a chaperone from WA the day I leave or do I simply call the police saying I have a WA worker etc and that they know everything?

First time in this scenario with a 3month old.
Any support appreciated please xx

Didn't want to go unanswered Op, he can't tell you you have to be at the house with your DD, that's like trying to keep you prisoner. Could you phone the police non emergency number and tell them you're leaving but you're afraid he'll try and stop you and see what they suggest?

Phone womens aid and get advice and you can also phone the police and ask to be accompanied whilst leaving the property because you are afraid. Phone them on the none emergency line in advance ive always found them to be kind and helpful.
But if at any point in any way shape or form you feel genuinely scared of immediate implications you Phone the police immediately on 999 and depending on the circumstances you either quietly state address or you put the phone on speaker and tell STBXH your on a call to police. Which way you go depends on your judgement of how he will react. Can you leave when he isn't in the property?
And you dont have to be co erced into signing 50/50. Is this a legal document or something hes mocked up himself?
It can go through the courts the proper way.
Take care, stay safe, and phone whichever agencies you can possibly think of that may help, a quick phone call will do no harm.

Also he does not have her without you until he gives passport back and you need to alert the authorities now he is a flight risk so he can be stopped at the airport.
Log his behaviour with the police to get everything flagged up. Its better safe than sorry. You dont have to lie or embelish, but sounds like coercive control what he is doing and you cannot risk him kidnapping your baby abroad where the chances of you getting them back are slim.

Thank you for your reply.
That's what I had in mind, but needed the reassurance.
I will speak to WA and another support worker that is helping me.
I just want my DD with me.
I am trying to leave when he is on a 7am to 7pm at work.
Thanks again

Sending love and strength op, you got this, its a scary time but you'll come out the other side..stay safe xx

You can contact Rights of Women for free legal advice. FLOWS can also help with legal advice. The National Domestic Abuse Helpline is available 24/7.

I also advise you to contact the police.

Report the passport as lost if he won’t return it. No passport= can’t fly

Regarding the passport phone and report it as lost, then obtain a new one that you keep

he also can’t stop you leaving with your child

as to 50/50;I would tell him to go via the courts

Call the police and Women’s Aid.

Report the passport as lost or stolen. Do everything you can to prevent him taking your child out of the country.

Thank you for all your answers. You have all been so helpful - thank you