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My ex said ‘I’m so well known for doing what I’m supposed too’ wth does that mean?

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BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 16:51

So me and my ex was together 2 years.. we split up in may before me he had been single for 5 years and that ex he was with 5 years ago he's now with again 🙄
My question is My best friend posted something and tagged me in the post he laugh reacted too it and then liked one of her pics 😷
So she messaged him asking why he's liking her stuff and will his gf appreciate that he said he liked it because she looks really nice then said ‘in all seriousness though I hope she's doing good I really do' on about me, so my friend put him in his place and said he's out of order knowing that's she’s my bestfriend and what about his gf to which he replied with 'it is what it is im well known for doing what I'm supposed too'
Wth does that mean specifically 'I'm well known for doing what im supposed too' his ex he's with now they have kids together so could he possibly mean oh I've just gone back for the kids or what? Also I know I shouldn't be over thinking this but I'm only overthinking this because I don't know what it means and yes I know he's liking her shit and reacting to something I'm tagged in because he's still very clearly watching my shit.. he isn't blocked but he's not on my friend list either

it was only 2 months ago after me ending things and me going no contact did he message me weeks late telling me he missed me sending me sad songs all the rest of it knowing I was moving on to then get back with his ex?😂 some ‘men’🤷🏻‍♀️

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BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:23

outerspacepotato · 09/07/2025 18:17

That is what he wants, for you to be thinking about him in the present. Don't give him what he wants.

He's the past. Don't let him steal your peace. Today is better without him.

The best revenge on an ex is to be over them.

I am and he knows I am hence why he’s doing things like this tbf him being an ex isn’t really a relevance of anybody said that to me I’d overthink it tbh because what even does thag mean but yeah😅

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BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:26

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Your acting as immature as I apparently am trust me if a parent was overthinking what someone said it’s not the end of the world n but no o don’t have kids don’t worry you can sleep at night my make believe kids are safe because I asked a question there’s no drama

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Isimplywaited · 09/07/2025 18:27

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MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/07/2025 18:28

BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:26

Your acting as immature as I apparently am trust me if a parent was overthinking what someone said it’s not the end of the world n but no o don’t have kids don’t worry you can sleep at night my make believe kids are safe because I asked a question there’s no drama

How many more times are you going to mention overthinking?

BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:33

MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/07/2025 18:28

How many more times are you going to mention overthinking?

This is MY post I’ll mention it as many times as I see for don’t you have kids to put to bed yet here you are in my business STILL?!

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ConcernedOfClapham · 09/07/2025 18:33

Who gives a shit? 😩

MemorableTrenchcoat · 09/07/2025 18:35

BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:33

This is MY post I’ll mention it as many times as I see for don’t you have kids to put to bed yet here you are in my business STILL?!

You’re overthinking what I’m up to.

fatgirlswims · 09/07/2025 18:37

It means he’s is doing what he considers the right thing - asking if you are well. The polite thing.

I can break it down for you with forensic word by word analysis if you like.

He doesn’t have a way with words. He isn’t subliminal. He isn’t even manipulative.

ShamrockShenanigans · 09/07/2025 18:45

Oh God, you again?

Just forget him and stop with the teenage drama.

BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:46

ShamrockShenanigans · 09/07/2025 18:45

Oh God, you again?

Just forget him and stop with the teenage drama.

Wym I’ve never ever posted about this? Oh wait is that someone else in a similar situation no wayyyyy that’s unbelievable isn’t it

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BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:47

fatgirlswims · 09/07/2025 18:37

It means he’s is doing what he considers the right thing - asking if you are well. The polite thing.

I can break it down for you with forensic word by word analysis if you like.

He doesn’t have a way with words. He isn’t subliminal. He isn’t even manipulative.

Oh you know him do you?

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BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:52

ConcernedOfClapham · 09/07/2025 18:33

Who gives a shit? 😩

Clearly you do enough to comment you know if this was me coming across this post I’d tell her what I think it means followed by words of encouragement yet I’m childish and dramatic I think a lot of you need to take a look in the mirror

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DinaofCloud9 · 09/07/2025 19:03

Do you still love him? Your replies are really defensive.

AndImBrit · 09/07/2025 19:05

It really doesn’t matter, but I assumed he was being sarcastic and he’s actually known for not doing what he’s supposed to (eg cheating, liking other girls’ posts etc) and is playing into the bad boy image.

fatgirlswims · 09/07/2025 19:05

BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 18:47

Oh you know him do you?

😂

mindyourhead78 · 09/07/2025 19:14

Looks like he missed the word not out of the sentence and it's a typo

Justwaits · 09/07/2025 19:18

This chap, whilst no doubt far from the sharpest tool in the box, has made one good decision, that’s for sure.

EllasNonny · 09/07/2025 19:23

You should tell your friend not to engage. Move on and be happy.

Delphiniumandlupins · 09/07/2025 19:47

None of you are as clever as you think you are. Assume he's not really saying anything profound and move on. Stop wasting time and brain power on this.

BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 19:47

Justwaits · 09/07/2025 19:18

This chap, whilst no doubt far from the sharpest tool in the box, has made one good decision, that’s for sure.

And what decision is that because I left him😅 these replies are very ‘pick me’ girl energy

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BigMouthBigFacts · 09/07/2025 19:51

DinaofCloud9 · 09/07/2025 19:03

Do you still love him? Your replies are really defensive.

No I don’t still love him I kept going back till I hated him infact. It was the only way for me I’m being defensive because have you actually seen some of the comments? Have they ever heard of ‘it you haven’t got anything nice to say don’t say anything’ if you have nothing to contribute towards this post other then bitchiness then I’m not here for it and yes I will defend myself some of the comments have been removed,that speaks for itself. I’m being defensive because I really don’t get what the big deal is it’s not even drama this has just happened nothing has happened before or after this I was just puzzled as to what he meant. People are acting as if they’ve never been through anything in their lives and they’ve never needed a second opinion

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Justwaits · 09/07/2025 20:24

we split up in may before me he had been single for 5 years and that ex he was with 5 years ago he's now with again 🙄

goodness he moved on quickly!!

Justwaits · 09/07/2025 20:25

5 years together and within weeks of splitting… he is already in a relationship

DinaofCloud9 · 09/07/2025 20:42

OK you don't still love him but are you upset he went straight back to his ex like you never really mattered or you were just a stop gap relationship?

I'm not saying you were but it would be normal to feel like that.

Itsthe1st · 11/07/2025 06:46

He went straight back to his ex after the end of a 5 year relationship with you Op?

That has to have hurt, and probably explains why you are spending so much time thinking about daftness like this. He has moved on. Now you do the same.

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