How could my ex’s girlfriend have accessed my Facebook?

[PeaceOverChaos]

Hi everyone,
This might sound strange but I’m feeling really unsettled and could use some perspective — especially on how this could’ve happened.

It started with my ex’s current girlfriend sending me a Facebook friend request. We’ve never met, don’t have mutual friends, and I had no reason to accept it — but she started demanding that I did. When I didn’t, she sent me a series of long, abusive messages telling me to “stay away” from him, saying their relationship is serious when they’ve been together for six months, and accusing me of interfering. I’d commented on one of his posts, but that’s literally it.

The next day, I started getting login code notifications from Facebook — ones I hadn’t requested. A few hours later, I went to log in and found I was locked out. My usual password no longer worked. I’ve now secured my account and changed everything, but I still feel shocked and confused.

She’s never had access to any of my devices, and we’ve never had any kind of contact before this. I’ve never shared my login details with anyone.

So I guess my main question is — how could she have possibly accessed my Facebook account?
Can someone do that just by knowing your name or email? Is there some trick I’m not aware of?

I feel really exposed and anxious, and just want to understand how this could’ve happened. Thanks in advance x

Did she/someone get you kicked out by trying and failing to log in a number of times? What makes you think they actually had access?

I agree with PP - she been trying to access it and Facebook has stopped anyone being able to log in after failed attempts.

If she had got in you wouldn’t have been able to reset it - especially if she had changed the passwords or anything.

She’s definitely not been able to access it. Don’t worry OP.

Shed of have to known your email to do that, unless you signed up via your phone number? Does she know either?

How do you know it was her? Demanding you accept a friend request to assuming she’s hacked your Facebook and locked you out is a bit of a stretch

Are you sure it's her that messaged you?
Could it be him pretending to be her to see if you're still into him/stir up drama.

Did you ever use his phone for your social media?

'Log out on all devices' is your friend. Then change the passwords.

It's very creepy. But it sounds like she was trying to log in and failed so it locked her out. And, you. She's probably not managed to log in.

As others have said it looks like someone knew your email and tried to log in to your Facebook.

She sounds deranged.

Block her and him on everything.

Have you ever logged onto your facebook using your exes laptop or phone and saved the password?

I was able to access XH facebook that way (and retrieve messages between him OW)

Just a thought too but if he was abusive, those sort like play women off against eachother. Is her account legit? it could even be him messaging you do that you block her and then, she'll never be able to contact you to ask you if he was abusive to you. And he'll also be able to message you and tell you his ex is crazy, this, rekindling contact.

Hopefully not that but, just beware. Women don't normally go nutso for no reason. He's probably been driving her mad. If it even is her.

I think it’s possibly worth taking your phone/laptop/tablet to the local police station and requesting some help to find out if they can discover who tried to get into your account. If it’s your boyfriend you need to know. If it’s her, she needs to be accountable.

I agree she likely made multiple attempts to sign in to your account by guessing your password, if it goes above a certain number of attempts with the wrong password your Fb account automatically gets locked: Then you get an email or message notifying you of these log in attempts and you have to verify your details / change your password to be able to access and secure your account. If she somehow managed to find out your email address or phone number then all someone has to do is make a few guesses at your password, she probably tried your ex’s name! She could even have done it with the intent to get you locked out just to be nasty maybe? She probably was trying to access your account though to snoop.

As pp have said, make sure you’ve selected the option to log out of all devices too

also screenshot all the messages, and if you get any more, go to the police and report her for harassment.
And anyway, report her messages to facebook as harassment. And block her.

Be sure that you set up two factor authentication as well. All this does is make sure that anyone trying to get into the account needs two pieces of information to get a code that will let them in. Much safer.

Don’t go to the police you will look insane, just block and move on

I'd tell your ex since you've obviously on good terms ! What a weirdo!

🤣🤣🤣🙄 As if the police would/have the resources to do this! Don’t be so ridiculous

Stalker alert!

I’ve even since had a friend request from her mother today

Block everything. Perhaps change your Facebook name too so it can’t be easily identified. She’s deranged and trying to get into your account. Just protect yourself rather than confronting anyone.

Depends what you want to do. You can report to police for harassment. Theres also computer misuse offences In there. Before you block take screen shots of any messages and friend requests in case you want to report. Make sure you capture the username and profile picture of the offending accounts and if possible the full url.

grown adults on Facebook. Behave yourself. Go read a book, or get a hobby.

Sounds like you need to block as you go.

Why are you still on your ex's Facebook though? What a headache, just delete him.

Definitely a real account?

Or does it look newly made?

Have you ever used his devices to log in to your account? Sounds like it could have been partially memorized on his phone or computer ect and she's tried that