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Is my boyfriend being manipulative?

14 replies

Boymum2256 · 08/07/2025 22:35

So I’ve been with my current partner for 7 months now and it’s a very toxic relationship from both sides. But I’ve been noticing a pattern with him when I say I’m breaking up with him he will come out with ohhh but I’ll take us here I’ve bought u this I’m waiting for it to be delivered (not that I’m all for materialistic things) but then I’ll give him another chance. For weeks to go buy and no sign of so called presents and surprise he said he ordered me. So I asked him about it and said I don’t really believe you’ve got me anything can I see a confirmation email or something? He then confessed he never actually got me anything he just didnt want me to leave him so he lied about buying me things! Which is really weird to me as it’s not the first time he’s lied about things I think I have a pathological liar as a boyfriend. It’s like I keep waiting things out to see if he will improve but he never does I don’t think this will last much longer

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 08/07/2025 22:38

Ltb

Boymum2256 · 08/07/2025 22:42

vodkaredbullgirl · 08/07/2025 22:38

Ltb

Sorry what does this mean lol

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 08/07/2025 22:44

Boymum2256 · 08/07/2025 22:42

Sorry what does this mean lol

Leave the bastard 😃

OneLemonGuide · 08/07/2025 22:45

He’s a definite keeper…Make sure you get pregnant asap by him! I hear wedding bells! 🙄

Or just dump him already… You know the answer… It couldn’t be more obvious! Why are you even asking, and why haven’t you already got rid? What’s wrong with you?!

WideOpenBeaches · 08/07/2025 22:45

You’ve pretty much answered your question in the first sentence you wrote.
Things won’t improve.
Leave The Bastard. (LTB)

TwistedWonder · 08/07/2025 22:47

Stop wasting your life on a man who is literally waving a huge red flag saying ‘I’m a piece of shit’ in your face.

What the fuck are you actually getting out of this crap?

OneLemonGuide · 08/07/2025 22:48

So I’ve been with my current partner for 7 months now and it’s a very toxic relationship from both sides

After this, the rest of your post was completely unnecessary… Whatever you’d written, the answer would be the same.

ModerateOrGoodOccasionallyPoor · 08/07/2025 22:51

So you stay because when you try to break up with him he says he's got several gifts on order for you and he promises to take you out for the day somewhere nice?

That's one of the most ridiculous reasons for staying in a bad relationship that I have ever heard. Not to mention that it also sounds shallow, mercenary and grabby.

Bananalanacake · 08/07/2025 22:51

You admit that the relationship is toxic so why put up with this shit. I hope you don't live together, give him the slow fade.

OneLemonGuide · 08/07/2025 22:53

ModerateOrGoodOccasionallyPoor · 08/07/2025 22:51

So you stay because when you try to break up with him he says he's got several gifts on order for you and he promises to take you out for the day somewhere nice?

That's one of the most ridiculous reasons for staying in a bad relationship that I have ever heard. Not to mention that it also sounds shallow, mercenary and grabby.

It’s even more ridiculous to remain in that relationship when he’s admitted lying about getting the present!

CaptainFuture · 08/07/2025 22:54

ModerateOrGoodOccasionallyPoor · 08/07/2025 22:51

So you stay because when you try to break up with him he says he's got several gifts on order for you and he promises to take you out for the day somewhere nice?

That's one of the most ridiculous reasons for staying in a bad relationship that I have ever heard. Not to mention that it also sounds shallow, mercenary and grabby.

This, sounds like he's an arse and you're mercenary...

Boymum2256 · 08/07/2025 23:02

Okayyy ok I get it thank you all for your comments he doesn’t live with me I’m luckily not pregnant by him! All I wanted to know was it manipulation I’m autistic and struggle to understand things I’m planning on leaving him for good because I know he will only get worse. Thanks guys

OP posts:
FourLove · 08/07/2025 23:09

Good luck with the next stage of your life, OP. You are well rid of this man. x

OneLemonGuide · 09/07/2025 06:47

Boymum2256 · 08/07/2025 23:02

Okayyy ok I get it thank you all for your comments he doesn’t live with me I’m luckily not pregnant by him! All I wanted to know was it manipulation I’m autistic and struggle to understand things I’m planning on leaving him for good because I know he will only get worse. Thanks guys

Glad you’re going to end it. Hoping your next relationship is much more healthy. Take care.

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