Hi, I really don't know what to do. I can't really talk to my family cause my brother may get a little too protective and hurt my husband. I can't talk to my parents cause they will tell my brother and they'll also get angry, so for now I have to pretend everything is ok.
I've talked a little to my friends at work and I didn't like their comments, I found myself defending my husband.
Long story short.
My husband has OCD and is medicated for it.
He doesn't like flying... he doesn't like doing anything I want to do. He's now saying I'm boring when I just want to stay at home and try and relax.
I find he's putting me down quite a lot and I'll retaliate.
He's been in his job for 3 months now and car shares with another women. I'm with it because I trusted him. We've been together for 28 years.
He's now come out with his female friend doesn't like the way I talk to him.
He wants sex all the time and I'm just not into it at the moment. I think its my age as I'm going through the change. However I don't feel comfortable around him cause he's told me I'm not slim like I used to be.
He's also questioning me about our relationship... like every single time im in the same room as him. Were just going round in circles and he's being repetitive.
He's currently working from home this past week and has now found a new friend to work our dog with. Another women. I WAS ok with this until... he says if I don't sleep with him then why are we married. There's plenty of other women who like him so he knows he can get anyone he wants. I feel very numb and trapped at the moment.
He says I'm working to hard and I now don't spend time with our little family. (I work 4 days a week, 9am till 5pm). Our children are both teenagers.
He's stated he wants a younger women who will give him what he wants and someone who has money and job prospects.
I'm feeling quite worthless at the moment and can't afford to leave. He earns 3 x's more than me and keeps telling me this. He's in and out of work yet my job is stable. I try and make an effort with him, yet its not good enough, he just wants more and more. If I'm talking to our children he always asks when are we going to get time together.
Tonight I've been talking to my friend on the phone and he's thrown a strop at me saying, what about you and I, when am i getting time with you?
Every Friday I spend the day with him, doing something like going out for breakfast whilst the kids are at school... I just feel like Im doing all the planning and he's doing all the winging...I'm not too sure where to go from this.
I can't even nip to the shops on the way home without a phone call asking where I am I'm late and the kids are hungry and he's hungry.
After a full day at work I come home and make the tea... I get bollocked if its not cooked quick enough, again, he's hungry after working all day.
I just don't know what to do. I just know he'll act like nothing has happened in the morning and bombard me with messages whilst at work saying sorry.