Hello I’m 18F and need some relationship advice. I have to give some backstory for this to make my way of thinking to make sense, also English isnt my first language so I apologize in advance. In middle school I was in a friend group, after some time though I got pushed away by said group when two of the people H (18F) and N (18M) got together, H was jealous so she stopped inviting me and texting me the time of hangouts and so we naturally drifted apart.
Flash forward to high school I have maintained a good relationship with K (18F), who was also in the group but managed to fly under H radar, until now, except K wasn’t going to give in easily after realising that H is doing the same thing to her that she did to me years ago, and they had a fight resulting in the group dropping H, N also broke up with her after 2 years, but for different reasons.
Now because me and K are good friends I started to hang out with the group again and that lead to me and N talking. Now last year of high school and me and N are a couple. At this point we have been together for about 5 months. The relationship is more then I can ask for and I’m very happy in it, it’s just this one things thats bothering me. I’m a busy person also after hanging out with people I need some alone time. This leads to the issue, sometimes when N asks if I wanna hangout and I can’t he goes and hangs out with K instead, that is partly because me, N and K live close together. At first I didn’t mind because they two hang out even before we got into the relationship but lately it feels like he spends more time with her than with me. It doesn’t help that Ks parents thought that there is something between them. I know this sounds like silly teenage drama but I really don’t know what to do, I don’t want to sound jealous or insecure especially because that’s what ended Ks friendship with H. It also doesn’t help when sometimes they come to my house and she is giggling, hiding behind him when I open the door for them, her sometimes touching his hair or just generally touching him when I’m there. They were friends before we got together and that’s just their friendship, I know but still it makes me feel unsure.
I forgot to add but K also has a boyfriend they got together around the same time as me and N but he lives far away so they don’t see each other as often. I also feel like every time that I have to decline a hangout with N and he responds with “alright I’ll go over to K and hang out with her just so yk” it feels like I’m being replaced? One more thing is that I don’t attend the same school as them, I go to a school where the standard are high resulting in me having much more school work and assignments then K and N combined, so the thought of them having fun together while I’m working my ass off isn’t helping. I also work part time and sometimes he can’t even wait for me to get of my shift so we can do something instead he says that he’s gonna be at her place. Now, they are not cheating together that’s for sure, it’s just that they’re close friends and I don’t want to come in between them like an insecure girlfriend. I just want to know what to do because I’m genuinely confused, I don’t know if it’s just jealousy speaking or if my feelings are valid? If not K I wouldn’t be here today and I love my boyfriend so I hate feeling this way about them two together. Would appreciate your thoughts!