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I was so looking forward to a surprise weekend away that my boyfriend told me I needed a passport for. I had no idea until I got to the airport. Imagine my disappointment when he took me to Belfast. I tried to hide it and I don't think he noticed. I was actually bitterly disappointed. Should I say anything?

Belfast is fab. Where did you want to go? Did you have a good time?

We had discussed Paris and Amsterdam. Belfast is hardly a romantic weekend destination. Interesting in its own right but totally inappropriate for a surprise weekend away with your girlfriend, especially when you'd spoken about needing a passport - building up hopes.

Your partner showed up, made plans, took you away as a treat. Shouldn’t matter where it was, he made the effort. Maybe you should be more grateful

The destination is only as romantic as you make it.

Belfast is amazing. Im sorry you were disappointed. Did you have a good time when you were away? Or did you let your disappointment waste the fun?

You are being ungrateful and ridiculous.

Belfast will be lovely. Perhaps you could organise the Paris/Rome trip another time.

He may have got confused about needing a passport what with Belfast not being on the mainland.

When was the last time you took him out for a pint?

I can't believe someone could be so lacking in insight. Like promising a special meal and dishing up beans on toast.

Wow! Yeah it’s maybe not what you wanted. But if you wanted somewhere specifically you should have organised it?? Give the guy a break, if you can’t make the most of Belfast that’s on you. It shouldn’t matter where you are, you’re on a break with your partner. You need to make the effort, he has

I'd be disappointed too OP. Belfast I don't think you need a passport anyway, as it's in the UK! But to be primed for 'abroad holiday' and you end up going somewhere in the UK, yeah, that's definitely disappointing.

Considering I'm on a low income and he's a very high earner, I pay disproportionately for stuff. I paid for taxis and drinks on this break.

I think you are being ridiculous to be honest. Many weekend I have had in Belfast and it is a lovely city, lots to do, bars/restaurants/shopping/things to do and see. I think it is lovely he surprised you with this to be honest.

On the passport thing coming from another part of the UK you would not need a passport unless he flew into Dublin and then you went up which would be pointless but doable or did you go into dublin at any point? Not always asked for passport but COULD be.

Do him a favour and end it. How ungrateful, if I did that for my girlfriend she wouldn't care if it was Weston-Super-Mare.
Have you never heard it's the thought that counts?

As a UK citizen You need photo id to fly to Belfast so if you don’t have a Driving Licence that means passport.

Belfast is hardly a romantic weekend destination. Interesting in its own right but totally inappropriate for a surprise weekend away with your girlfriend,

‘totally inappropriate’ 😂

I'm not ungrateful but in this circumstance I think I've every right to be disappointed. I think he only booked it because he got a discount. He's very wealthy but mean.

You clearly are not well suited. Find another high income boyfriend but give him a list of " appropriate " destinations

If there is a discrepancy between how much each of you pay for stuff, then you have bigger issues than his choice of holiday destination. You seem to begrudge that he is wealthy. Have you guys spoken about this before?

YANBU.

the responses here are baffling. He would have known passport implies foreign.

I wouldn’t be surprised if he was negging you here OP.

This would give me the ick.

I went to Belfast for work so had no expectations. It blew me away, what a fabulous city. I’m desperate to go back for a weekend

I need a passport, it’s my form of ID as I don’t have a driving licence. You cannot board a plane without photographic ID, quite rightly. So it’s not a ‘trick’ that OP was told she needed a passport.

anyway Belfast is great, are you not a fan of the pub/music scene? History? The Titanic?!!

To be fair I’d have expected a EU warm break with people watching, wine and nice meals out and a lovely hotel, new things to explore etc. I’ve been to Belfast and it’s a great city but it’s not Paris. if I was choosing a UK city bath and Edinburgh would have been equally nice minus the cost of ferry or flights, is he’s a tight arse!

I’d be disappointed too, OP. There’s nothing wrong with Belfast, but if you’re told to bring your passport that definitely creates an expectation that you’re going somewhere a bit different to just another UK city.

Okay, the passport thing was maybe a bit strange. Does he know you don't need a passport for Belfast, or was it just an honest mistake?

The rest of it... I agree that you're a bit ungrateful.
If you want a say in the where and the what, then you plan something or you take part in planning it and pay your fair share.
It doesn't matter that he's well off and that he booked it at a discount.
He actually took the time to surprise you, planned the whole thing and took you there. Do you realise how many women would be overjoyed to have a partner like that?

Honestly, I expect my 6 year old to behave better than this. She recently had a birthday party and she didn't like some of the gifts she received. But she politely smiled and said thank you and realised that everyone who got her something did their best, and she should be thanking them for the effort they put in, not just the outcome.

'He's very wealthy, but mean' this doesn't bode well for a relationship whether it's just your perception or whether it's true

This post is a wind up! No one is this ridiculous. I have been to many many places. Cities, mountains, lakes, beach resorts all across the world and Belfast is absolutely fantastic. Ideal for travelling to all the beautiful places across Northern Ireland and with amazing buildings, restaurants and bars. I think Belfast is iconic and incidentally would absolutely choose a weekend in Belfast over Paris or Amsterdam and I’ve been to all three!