Married to exh for 18 years. Ups and downs, mainly because he left all the hard bits of parenting to me, to the detriment of my career. Several episodes of dubious behavior with other women but we had small kids and I didn’t think I could cope alone. 2022, I thought things were generally ok, kids older so date nights occasionally but kids in exam years. Then I found out he had been paying another woman for sex. We separated but still trying to find a way and then I found out he had been paying prostitutes for sex in hotel rooms during the working day for years. Tens of thousands of pounds not to mention the risks to my health and lack of time with family. Anyway a month after he moved out I was diagnosed with aggressive breast cancer and spent 2 years in treatment. He barely saw the kids. I taught eldest to drive during this and helped both of them through exams and Uni choices.
we are now divorced 18 months but I am really struggling with the fact that he has just sailed off into the sunset, new girlfriend, only sees the kids when it suits him, paying absolutely bare minimum child maintenance and virtually nothing for the child at Uni. Meanwhile I am single lonely and broke.