Husband won’t spend time with me

[Seebee13]

Lately me (32) and my husband(37) haven’t had as much sex as usual and he’s been very off with me (normally if we don’t have sex for longer than a week). We have been together for 17 years and have experienced ups and downs. But lately more so he’s always moody with me and doesn’t want to spend time with me. I asked him to go away for a night a couple different occasions all of which I ended up going alone or not at all. Even asked him on his day off to meet me at work to go for lunch (we live a 15 minute bus ride from my work) he didn’t want to. It’s just frustrating at the moment where he expects me to be okay and not have a moment just us but then just make me feel shitty about the lack of sex. I point out why would I want to if we don’t spend time together but I may aswell talk to a wall. Am I being unreasonable here? Before anyway says anything he’s not cheating he doesn’t go out or anything like that.

Sounds depressed. It isn’t healthy to just spend all your time with your partner and not have a social life of your own. Do you go out? Also what’s his reason for not going out? Does he have friends?

He’s never really been the type to go out. He does have friends but he will always go months without going out. But my problem is we never do anything just us. I go out now and again but can be difficult to do that around his shifts due to child care.

You’ve been together since you were 15 and he was 20?

Pretty much I was just turning 16

The fact that he knew it was illegal for him to be dating you at 15 when he was 20, plus his inability to communicate with you what is wrong, plus the fact that he doesn't seem to value you at all, and pesters you for sex?? . Lots of red flags I'm afraid. Have you asked him what's going on?