What happens if you log an incident with the police online and don't want further action taken?

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I told my dh today that I was done, I wanted to end our marriage.

Its been coming for a long time but he just went mad, was shouting in my face, calling me every name under the sun and started throwing things around. I barely reacted . He left the house and has just come back and said it felt good to get things off his chest!
I just want the incident logged in case of any further incidents, without any further action.
I know I can do that online. Does anyone have any experience of this. I'm not hurt, I don't feel in danger, I just feel numb at the moment. He's done this a couple of times in our 10 years together but is normally very placid. Thanks

You could contact your local police service via webchat and get some advice. I wouldn't talk to him about it again, I'd quietly go about planning my exit. He sounds volatile and leaving can lead to escalation. For support I'd contact a domestic abuse organisation.

I don’t have experience with DV, but I have done an online report for harassment and witness intimidation (my dd was a witness to a crime and was asked to give a statement and then got harassed as a result). My understanding from speaking to the police officer who handled the report is that it just sits there in the system. So if it were to happen again (they wouldn’t pursue charges because it only happened once), the original report would be on the system linked to the person in question and any future reports would link to that one because of his name and address.

I don’t know if they have a different duty of care to action DV reports though. Considering how little they seemed to care about the one I made of a grown man making threats against a child, I can’t imagine they’d do much if you truly didn’t want to pursue it. I think they would need to do some sort of safeguarding visit though.

Do you have kids in the house under 18, If so, social services will be informed and he will be removed from the house.

Really?? I thought SS were hugely overstretched, there’d be a need for evidence, legal process etc etc. I don’t think it’s as simple as you make it sound.