In despair :(

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I am in despair. My partner who has been fantastic has been through a lot of recent and this has made his mental health take a plough, anxiety etc he is on prescribed medication. It's been a horrible time and it's triggering my mental health. But making decisions for us is difficult...year after year, and this year is 10x times worse as he is just not a decision maker and expects things to fall into his lap in that sense. He just can't make decisions on I e a holiday so now the prices have hit all time highs for a family holiday.. the one thing we work for. If its not this it's reminding him to reply to texts, complete tasks etc...I have to be his memory! It's draining. We have now had a massive argument about this in front of our children and he's disappeared for a walk. So upset.

There's plenty of tech he can use for reminders: apps, watch, phone, Alexa

As for holidays just choose three locations and ask him which one he likes. If he can't choose, just book one.

I'll suggest apps but it's case of yes I will do it a d it never happens.

Cheers for the suggestions. We are at the point of struggling to find anywhere now as it's so close.

He came home when I went out driving looking for him to say he's staying away the night. Children's are so upset as they have never seen this before. So once he's said goodnight I can envisage he will be leaving.

I have one like this. He absolutely can't make a decision about anything. We discuss so many things and he acts like he agrees but nothing comes of it. When I say I'm going to do something he's quick to say No! It's gruelling so I understand what you're going through.

I'm sure he'll come back.

Some men who have had over bearing mothers can be like this.

Thank you. It's nice (sorry but not nice for you!) to feel I'm not alone. It's frustrating and change never happens even after this argument, I doubt it anyhow. I want to work to live and he's happy plodding along or waiting for things to come to him...or go wrong and then react! Yes unfortunatly the mother in law wasn't the greatest role model coincidently!