Would you ever give up a HA house to move in with partner?

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I've been with my partner for a year, he's renting and wanting to buy somewhere. I live in a 2 bed HA house with my daughter and we are happy here. He has mentioned in the future that he would like to live abroad somewhere warm when he is retired.
I know it's a long way away and we may not last that long but it got me thinking about our future and I realized I couldn't ever move abroad with him because I have my HA house and I'm obviously not allowed to just have it vacant whilst I live abroad.
I also don't want to give up my home to buy somewhere with him down the line either as this would also mean moving in with him and giving up my home.
What do people in HA properties do in relationships, do they just have the partner move in with them? As obviously they would lose their home if they move into their partners home.

Will you eventually have the "right to buy" your HA house?
If so, save like mad and buy it - probably in about five years or so, perhaps longer depending on its value and your earnings.

In the meantime, continue the relationship but don't live together.
Let him buy on his own if he wants to. If he can't afford to, he will just have to carry on renting.

Then if you are still together in five or six years, reconsider. You can both sell up (assuming you both bought) and get a house together then (and get married obviously - don't move in together without being married).

This plan means you don't have a baby with him for many years - how does that sound?

@OvaHere I'm in my late 30s and don't want to have anymore children. I'm glad it worked out for you.

OP, it's still early on in your relationship, the honeymoon period. We all say things we'd like to do in the future, travel and live abroad are normally the top ones. It's just talk. A fantasy. Even two people agreeing on these goals don't always do it. Life just gets in the way or brings obstacles.
Keep hold of your HA property, it sounds lovely and your DC is benefiting from the security it brings.

No are you mad. And you have only been with him for a year

Keep your HA home and let him do his own thing. Living together is overrated. If you can manage on your own your independence and security worth more than pipe dreams or risk. If it didn’t work out you’d struggle to get another plus could keep the romance alive getting time to miss each other. +Nothing beats not having to do even more housework and being able to shut your own front door and have no drama…

She does have to live in it, even with an assured or secure tenancy, if they find out she isn’t living there the HA could and would take steps to take it off her.

I've news for you OP. I'm in my sixties now, I have a great partner who is 8 years older than me. We've been together nearly 30 years. Yes that's right. We kept our houses (owned) and don't live together either. We do spend a lot of time in each other's place though, but have retained semi independence.

I can honestly say that living apart but being together is the best recipe for a long, happy and secure relationship (for us!). The security of knowing I would always have my house meant such a lot to me especially as I got older. There are lots of other benefits aswell, snoring like a train is one of thing I don't have to put up with every night lol. 😊

Like I said it’s difficult to prove but fraud investigators have access to a lot of information held by other agencies and institutions.

Never

If they could be bothered. Rent is paid by benefits so as long as that’s rolling in they don’t care. Trust me, I’ve reported it. All they do is email me a reply saying they cannot discuss and cite data protection.

No wonder we have a social housing shortage, when people who don’t need them anymore are hanging on to HA houses for dear life! I truly believe people’s situation should be reviewed every 5-10 years to check whether they still need the HA home. And before people start saying - that’s their home - it’s a lot more security than private renters get!

Everyone else is not OPs responsibility. She and her daughter do need this house until said partner and she have legalities in place. She needs to look after herself and her daughter. Don’t put that on her.

Shows what you know. Ignorant rude post.

This isn’t true I know someone who did this and she was evicted when her neighbours reported her.

This HA obviously operates on their own “rules”. Unfortunately. I’ve now hit a brick wall 🤷‍♀️

Sorry?

Well i definitely wouldn't be after only knowing someone a year!

I'd first spend lots of time with each other in each others places

No. Never. I would never trust someone enough not to leave me in the shit.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! Don't do it! Social housing is like gold dust. You will never get another nice little 2 bed social housing house.

Stay where you are. You've only been with him for a year anyway!

Nope, never give up a secure tenancy

DH moved in with me as I had a secure tenancy. 5 years later we bought together and got married

Id never give up a secure home for a man Id known for 5 mins

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No!

You have a safe home in a decent location with good neighbours where you and your child are happy.

Don't even think of putting both your future at risk by considering moving in with a man you have only known for a year.

If he wants to buy a house, he can do it on his own and you can visit but beyond that keep your independence.

''@CeciliaMars · Today 12:01
No wonder we have a social housing shortage, when people who don’t need them anymore are hanging on to HA houses for dear life! I truly believe people’s situation should be reviewed every 5-10 years to check whether they still need the HA home. And before people start saying - that’s their home - it’s a lot more security than private renters get!''

Daft comment.

She is not married to that man, does not have kids with him and they don't share finances. They only have been dating for a year.

Of course she needs her house.