Disappointed again

[ThatCoralBiscuit]

Ive been OLD for 4 months following my divorce. I was getting on well with a guy chatting for the past three weeks.. messaging every day and voice calls. He has a massively busy job so we said we would wait to meet. He unmatched me off tinder but continued talking on whatsapp.
he has now sent me this
ive deleted my profile by the way, I have to accept that trying to squeeze in dating at the moment is just leading to frustration, not sure exactly what to do about it but it feels like a sensible decision for the moment.
i dont how to respond since he took me off the apps anyway?
i am gutted

What did he send you? I think there’s a message missing from your post.

OP - with kindness, you’ve started numerous threads about the breakdown of your marriage and men you’ve met online since that happened. It’s like you’re trying to rush into dating when you’ve only recently separated .
You are way too intense and obsessive over these men you’re matching with and honestly you’re trying too hard to force yourself to move on when it’s pretty clear for anyone reading your threads that you’re not over your DH and nowhere near ready to date yet.

You need to take time being single to grieve your marriage and then work on knowing who you are and what you really want before you’re anywhere near in the headspace to date.

You’re just running on a treadmill going no where but scared to step off and take a breath.

Link missing but you should aim to meet a guy after exchanging a few texts/phone calls. Otherwise you are just their sounding board. No one is that busy (and if so why are they on a dating app). You won’t know what they are really like till you meet in person and you will save yourself time as well as prevent yourself from getting too invested as here.

I assume the message about coming off the apps was from him to her. Maybe he is just letting you know that you are the only one he has any time to consider dating?

There isn’t much you can say, he’s extremely busy with work/life and is frustrated that he can’t fit dating into his schedule? Sadly this is the case for many people. I recently ended a relationship with some one who was working several jobs and could barely make time to see me, when ever I complained all I would get is “I can’t afford to live without working 2 jobs”,which is fair enough but it wasn’t for me.

Everyone has choices and if someone wants to make time for a relationship I’m sure they will/can but it’s not always easy. It sounds like he’s struggling to find time and doesn’t want to change anything to accommodate. Sadly these days many people have to work crazy hours to just survive and there’s not much time for anything else.